Oh dear DofD how could we be shocked at you, that had me in tears, you are a good personThe Christmas tree is now becoming a personal issue! silly really!
I have had my Christmas spirit get up & evacuate the premises!
Silly but the last straw is that while I’m working on Sunday my husband will be visiting his family & having lunch & dinner cooked for him, exchanging all the presents I purchased & wrapped for his family; & having a jolly time of it!
meanwhile I’m struggling to try & get everything done here! I will not be wrapping lots of presents for Mum & Dad! I am hoping to collate a picture book for each of them! Not that they will know who is who in the photos!
I love Christmas, don’t get me wrong - but this is the saddest time of this dementia journey & I don’t have any emotional or physical reserves left now!
I’m all out! Yet I put on the pretence I’m coping on a daily basis. if I didn’t have this outlet for the utter sadness & grief I think this whole process would just eat me up alive. As it is it’s had a good attempt!
I really do hope my parents don’t live much longer, it’s cruel beyond belief.
So if I could have one thing I want this torture to end! I want my life back, I cannot keep doing this anymore.
Please don’t be shocked or horrified at me, I’m a good person just not as strong as others on here.
Did he not have bed rails on his nursing bed?? Or does he not have one?Just opened up emails... Dad now requires cot sides to stop him from falling out of bed
does that mean he has fallen ?
Or is at risk of?
actually as he’s off his legs mostly I’m not surprised, just saddened that we have had to fight to get him the care he needs!
Hope SS find him nursing home soon. Expect it will be in his county of origin/ funding authority
am not going to chase SS or anyone about Dads case- I’m afraid they will have to sort it all out.
Yes he does .... just had his Gp ring me. as his care home don’t communicate still the GP was very concerned that I was unaware of new issues & the deterioration. The GP said also said that the home are leavin Dad in bed a lot despite him having his state of art wheelchair. I cried when he saidDid he not have bed rails on his nursing bed?? Or does he not have one?
Had lots of tears today!Honestly @DesperateofDevon i know that feeling well!
Some aspects of my mum’s dementia were horrendous especially when she was still living at home despite having carers. I remember her neighbour ringing me up & saying she needed help while I was actually moving house ( I moved 6 times in 7 years) & I honestly thought I was going to have a mental breakdown there & then! I was crying on the phone saying I’m sorry but I’m actually moving house here, I was stressed to the eyeballs, my useless ex was not a lot of use & it was all too much.
Self care is important & I haven’t looked after myself much this year & that has to change. I feel battered & all this battling with the executor has not been good for me either & explains why I just cannot shift this lurgy that I have had since October!
I just want to get my life back too & honestly I’m going to get there & so will you! Xx
The care home honestly sound absolutely **** & ill prepared dealing with your Dad. I hope a new & much more able care home is found soon. I would be phoning up social services all the time! Well done to your daughter putting up the decs though xxHow when safeguarding is under investigation can the care home still not inform us of Dads bedsores, issues, etc?
either arrogance - ignorance - stupidity or just total incompetence!
I’m letting the authorities sort this all out ; they need to do their jobs .
think there might be a few more tears today!
I’m in danger of becoming dehydrated at this rate!
Oh is off tomorrow & I am releasing him onto the home!My heart goes out to you. It just seems when you have been kicked someone kicks you down again. How terrible (understatement) that your Dad got the chair he so badly needed and now it is not been used for him. I know you said you would not be able to visit so often if he goes back to the funding area but it just seems the quicker he is out of the current CH the better.
On the good side I am pleased that your daughter has hopefully now covered up your naked, minimalist tree
OH is off tomorrow & he’s now on the case as the CH & SW don’t communicate with me or include me in any meetings etc! at least the GP has a conscience!The care home honestly sound absolutely **** & ill prepared dealing with your Dad. I hope a new & much more able care home is found soon. I would be phoning up social services all the time! Well done to your daughter putting up the decs though xx