- Nov 13, 2019
Hi there- yes the last say 10 years have just flown by in a haze of awfulness. Crisis after crisis.... in the past I managed my feelings with drinking to excess, but in March 2018 I quit, realising that I was doing myself a lot of harm as well as not solving anything at all . It’s dreadful isn’t it ? My mother lost her mobility and speech so many years ago, nobody can actually believe how she is still here and fighting.I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I am lucky in having Dad in CH & mum a distance away with carers - & I really appreciate that when I read other carers posts.
it gets to a point where you don’t have a life - I can see that.
Please take care of you first & foremost.
My Mum said on Sunday “ you don’t really have a life do you?”
that insight made me think about what is it that makes us do what we do as carers.
I don’t have any answers but know now that self preservation has got to be a major part in my life now. I feel so unwell all the time & people keep telling me I look ill!!
I hope you find resolution-soon.
Take care & hijack away, it’s nice to have social interaction!
At the moment, both me and my sister feel very low. This isn’t helped by the fact that my father seems to be in denial.
I know what you mean re feeling ill etc. I have started making time for a few decent walks in the park every week , but inside I feel dreadful.
Take care x