Hi all,
Firstly THANKS a million for comments, suggestions & support!!!
I took the advice from crazyweather;Stay calm
And after thinking about what you asked: Now that the CH Manager has said that they don't want your PWD because of verbal aggression would you actually want them to be cared for in this home?
No I / we don’t.
You have to forgive me I’m new to the “care-home” setup and did not have a clue or understanding of it at all until Sep 2016,(so I’m still in my crawling stage!)
Naively I thought that SS would have explained it all to us from the start, I can now with hindsight see that thats not what happened in our case....
Following a long chat with FIL’s GP, she also expressed her view of the total luck of consistency from SS and she told me that the SW had said: SS have offered them 4 possible places but they have refused them ALL!
Well not strictly the truth this is the email from the SW:
We have 4 potential offers at present,
Offer 1 means you will be required to make a top up as it is well above our commissioned beds. I am aware that you indicated that you are not in a position to top up. (SO WHY is this offered to us?)
Offer 2 & 3 It is unlikely you will consider because both are shared rooms.
Offer 4 they refused him.
Now forgive me for not understanding the system but it cant be an offer if its not meeting any of his needs or can it?
I have also had a nice long chat with an admiral nurse.We have had a look at local EMI/dedicated dementia home find a few, that would work for us however its if a block bed is free....
I’m slowly learning the process, but each time I feel I know it, another “hoop is popping up”!
I don’t mind blunt advice or comments, it kind of works better than fobbing me off with big words and long explanations! So no need to apologize for being blunt anymore.
Without the help and support on here I would have been crying & shouting a lot over the past 24 hours. Instead I have looked after my kids, sorted out home help for MIL, that's a miracle!! (hoping I can get some more Me-time,very selfish I know!)
So even if the road ahead is rocky and unknown I feel its going to be ok I will carefully pick my fights and save the energy for the time when its needed. Its a long steep learning curve .
Wishing you all some happiness and smiles for the weekend!
Mammamu