Mum ( who has been in her CH for 7 months now) came to mine for Xmas dinner.
Brother picked her up & it was a real pleasure having her here, no dramas, no worries, in fact, a lot of glimpses of old mum.
However.....i started noticing she was getting tired & started making noises about her going.. .but brother who was taking her back, wanted ( i think) to enjoy this mum for longer.
Eventually, they left but was quite late.
A few hours later bruv calls, mum was very agitated about being taken back ' to that place, refused to have tea and was very upset.
I visited today & she was clearly exhausted, making no sense at all, kept taking my hand & asking to go home.
So selfishly, I have wonderful memories of what could be my mum's last Xmas day , it was a great day. But for her...is it worth it?? As I know in another year, she will have deteriorated much more.
I do hope, whether your loved one is with you or in a home, the Christmas ' holiday ' wasn't too stressful and at some point, there was a memory to hold onto.
Sas xx
Brother picked her up & it was a real pleasure having her here, no dramas, no worries, in fact, a lot of glimpses of old mum.
However.....i started noticing she was getting tired & started making noises about her going.. .but brother who was taking her back, wanted ( i think) to enjoy this mum for longer.
Eventually, they left but was quite late.
A few hours later bruv calls, mum was very agitated about being taken back ' to that place, refused to have tea and was very upset.
I visited today & she was clearly exhausted, making no sense at all, kept taking my hand & asking to go home.
So selfishly, I have wonderful memories of what could be my mum's last Xmas day , it was a great day. But for her...is it worth it?? As I know in another year, she will have deteriorated much more.
I do hope, whether your loved one is with you or in a home, the Christmas ' holiday ' wasn't too stressful and at some point, there was a memory to hold onto.
Sas xx