1. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,115
    Kent
    I hope you are staying safe Lady A and your area isn't being affected too much. It's very dark here and there's an eerie atmosphere but no storm. The news looks dreadful.

    I also hope your daughter and lovely grandson are safe.

    Take care.
     
  2. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,589
    West Midlands
    Also thinking of you and hoping you are all safe and have no damage xx
     
  3. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Been updating in the weekly chat thread. It's been horrific, but the official preparation, I think, mitigated damage as much as possible. All schools and colleges are closed today and tomorrow. Most shops and businesses that could, closed today, even places like Lidl, Aldi and Tesco! People were warned to only be out if absolutely necessary. There are three confirmed deaths so far. Approximately 360,000 homes without power (thankfully, not me, so far!) and it could take up to ten days to get everyone restored. Innumerable trees ripped up, roofs torn from buildings, etc. I didn't go to work this morning, and it's just as well, because by lunchtime all routes between town and where I live were blocked by fallen trees or electricity poles! I felt my little Kia is too lightweight to be out in such wind, particularly as, because of my frozen shoulder, I'm steering with one arm!

    The only damage I've had so far (it's still blowing out there!) is my small greenhouse is in bits, and a huge branch came off a tree in the back, damaging the roof of the chicken run and bringing part of a fence down. I really need to do something about getting those trees reduced. Again!

    Hope the storm passes you by! It surely must have spent some of its ferocity here, before hitting the UK!
     
  4. margherita

    margherita Registered User

    May 30, 2017
    2,409
    Female
    Italy, Milan and Acqui Terme
    Lady A, I have been thinking of you and the other TP friends who live in Ireland. What I saw on Italian TV was frightening. I'm glad you are safe at home.
     
  5. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Hmm. I've been reading back on this thread to around APril of last year, when my last remaining cat died. I was heartbroken at the time, and determined not to get another. I tried a puppy, but had to return it. I'm not a dog person, really. I've stuck to my resolve since, not to have pets. But, suddenly, I'm looking into getting another rescue cat or two..... Watch this space! I may yet persuade myself out of it, but I may not!
     
  6. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Went to have a chat with the vet practice about rescue kitties. Was standing there, having just decided to take a grey tabby kitten they had there for rehoming, when a woman arrived with a little tortie which she said had been dumped at her mother's. Sadly, it needs to have an eye removed, as it's badly infected. But she's gorgeous - so next week, both kittens are coming home with me! Pics will follow in due course. :)
     
  7. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
    Oh! How lovely! Rescue kittens! Looking forward to pics x
     
  8. Aisling

    Aisling Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015
    1,807
    Ireland
    Are they male or female?

    Aisling
     
  9. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Aisling!! How are you doing??

    The kittens are one of each. Grey tabby male, and tortie, which is, obviously, female.
     
  10. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    Sigh. It's over two years now since William died. Two years and almost three months. I wonder do you ever get over getting those moments when something will trigger off a wave of loss and grief? They don't happen nearly so often, of course, these days. But the silliest things will trigger them. And it's happened twice in the last couple of weeks. First time, walked into a local Tesco which has the mens' clothing near the entrance, and they had these lovely cardi's in. William would never wear a pullover type, only button up cardigans, in plain colours. And sometimes, they were hard to get. But as soon as I saw these in Tesco, my first thought was a delighted "Oh! Lovely, those are perfect....." before I realised that of course, I didn't need to buy one for him. And then in Lidl this week, they have their Christmas sweets in. And one thing I always had to buy for him was one of those big jars of boiled fruit sweets! They were his absolute favourites! Only in the last couple of years of his life, did I not get them for him, as they were such a choking hazard. But the sight of the brightly coloured sweets in the glass jar was enough to have me in tears.
     
  11. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,115
    Kent
    I had a similar experience going to the Ladies in M&S Lady A . It entailed having to walk through the men's department and there were some really lovely shirts.
     
  12. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    How entwined we become with our "other halves". And we weren't married nearly as long as some. 21 years, when William died.
     
  13. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    6,119
    Female
    Scotland
    Yes, entwined.... that is a good description LadyA.

    When I receive one of the numerous small brochures which are sent following an order from a clothing company. I find my eye caught by something in the men's section and thinking I must buy that for Henry, one of his favourite colours and styles. Then it hits me and the tears come.

    I try to avoid looking at the men's wear, or just bin the brochure and don't look at anything. (I'm on a hunt for elasticated midi-length skirts as my severe leg swelling etc., prevents me now wearing trousers) But there are so many things which suddenly and unexpectedly bring about a wave of loss and grief. I don't know if this ever lessens.....

    Loo xx
     
  14. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,233
    Female
    Dundee
    It's the men's department of M&S that does it for me too. I see so many things that I know Bill would have really suited. It's hard when the realisation hits you in the middle of a busy shop.
     
  15. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    6,119
    Female
    Scotland
    I was thinking that Izzy. Being housebound at least I have privacy. But it still can overcome me when in the company of someone who is here with me.

    Loo xx
     
  16. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,478
    London
    Me too it’s M&S men’s that gets me as well, even looking at the Christmas biscuit tins has started me off, remembering how we always went together to buy them, isn’t it silly what suddenly makes you tearful.
     
  17. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    This will be my third Christmas since William died, and my first Christmas as a grandmother. Philip was born on New Years Eve.

    I got talking to a woman in a Charity shop last year - she volunteers there. She's been widowed for over 40 years, although I'd say she's only in her early/mid 60s. She said she always did the whole Christmas thing for her children's sake, but she hates it, it's never felt the same since her husband died. At the time I remember being really shocked, I thought that surely after a few years, you adjust to it - same as we had to adjust to being married and having someone there all the time!

    But I'm starting to wonder. As time passes, although I'm ok in general - certainly not wallowing in misery or anything - I find I miss William more, and I miss all I missed out on because of his illness which encroached on most of our marriage. As they say, "we was robbed!" And I suppose the sight of Christmas decorations and all the "togetherness" advertised at this time of year (however unrealistic it might be!) just highlights the aloneness.
     
  18. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    And still there are happinesses! :)
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  19. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
    You grew a kitten!
    They are lovely x
     

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