Hi I have been a single carer for my elderly uncle (who i have known all my life).. for the past 3 years. He lost his daughter then his wife all within 2 years..He took to drink but over a period of time we managed to compromise... He has no contact from his son and this has been ongoing for as long as i can remember. Son dont wanna know his dad. I feel like ive been alone for uncle for the past 3 years..shopping cooking doc's etc... responding to his beck and call..... he has been in and out of hospital through reacurring chest infections, The last time he was admitted he stayed in hospital for 3 weeks then was discharged ...to his home address. He was still poorly and He was admitted back to the hospital within 9 hours of discharge. And there he has been since ....neanly 10 weeks and for the last 3 weeks he has been STRANGE to say the least... They say prob his chest... then tests showed he has vascular dimentia plus chronic chest infection.. i really cant belive how rapidly this thing....has took hold of him, he has gone from a kind genuine sweet honest uncle to a complete nightmare to be honest.. i get shouted at, abused, and have had things thrown at me. .........no one else just me. He is apparantly on antibiotics for chest and diazipam to calm things AND DF118'S for pain... but.... Tonight i find that his blood pressure has dropped...? WHY COULD THIS BE... I had biggest job to wake him up... It really freaked me out...he is also now apparantly doubly incontinant. I went back at night time visiting only to find he had "WOKE UP" and was confronted with im coming home with you - i hate it here-i wanna die....etc I was totally gutted... and felt soooo guilty..but i know sensibly that i couldnt cope with him at home. Does any one else any info ..all will be greatly appriciated as i am begining to feel that whithin my self myself not able to cope. not a feeling i am fimilliar with... I cant let this happen as there is no one else at all apart from my parent who are both of ill health themselves.