Hello Everyone
I have been reading the posts on this site for a few weeks now as I have concerns for my Mother. I feel it is time to interact and seek help & advice where I can. Myself & 3 brothers are getting increasingly concerned about my Mother's behaviour. She has always been a formidable woman, instilling fear in all those around her. For many years we have considered her to have some kind of personality disorder, but now this appears to be made worse by some form of dementia! In some ways she has become pathetically clingy & cries almost everyday about something! Her short term memory has become shocking but she accuses my brothers of having affairs with her neighbours. When a row ensues she denies the allegations, then in a matter of weeks she says it all over again.
She has a deep paranoia that we (and now other family members) are plotting to put her in a CH. She says her neighbours "want my house'. She rows & falls out with everybody she comes into contact with.
We did somehow manage to get her to have an assessment with a nurse from the Memory clinic. She was petrified and the nurse agreed (although I feel reluctantly) to reassess her 6 months later. This would have been this month BUT my Mother has cancelled it saying it is hanging over her head & it is THAT that is making her ill. However, she hasn't stopped crying since ! I think she is aware that something is very wrong and she is scared! She tells us constantly that she "is not mental" a phrase I wish she wouldn't use!
Now one of my brothers has had a terrible fall out with her over constantly implying that he is being unfaithful to his wife and has vowed never to speak to her again.
I unfortunately took the brunt of it from her (as the only daughter I invariably do!)&have not now spoken to her for several days. I feel that one by one we are all starting to buckle under the strain of her constant drama's.
I probably haven't put this across very clearly, but any help or advice will be so welcome.
Thank you in advance
I have been reading the posts on this site for a few weeks now as I have concerns for my Mother. I feel it is time to interact and seek help & advice where I can. Myself & 3 brothers are getting increasingly concerned about my Mother's behaviour. She has always been a formidable woman, instilling fear in all those around her. For many years we have considered her to have some kind of personality disorder, but now this appears to be made worse by some form of dementia! In some ways she has become pathetically clingy & cries almost everyday about something! Her short term memory has become shocking but she accuses my brothers of having affairs with her neighbours. When a row ensues she denies the allegations, then in a matter of weeks she says it all over again.
She has a deep paranoia that we (and now other family members) are plotting to put her in a CH. She says her neighbours "want my house'. She rows & falls out with everybody she comes into contact with.
We did somehow manage to get her to have an assessment with a nurse from the Memory clinic. She was petrified and the nurse agreed (although I feel reluctantly) to reassess her 6 months later. This would have been this month BUT my Mother has cancelled it saying it is hanging over her head & it is THAT that is making her ill. However, she hasn't stopped crying since ! I think she is aware that something is very wrong and she is scared! She tells us constantly that she "is not mental" a phrase I wish she wouldn't use!
Now one of my brothers has had a terrible fall out with her over constantly implying that he is being unfaithful to his wife and has vowed never to speak to her again.
I unfortunately took the brunt of it from her (as the only daughter I invariably do!)&have not now spoken to her for several days. I feel that one by one we are all starting to buckle under the strain of her constant drama's.
I probably haven't put this across very clearly, but any help or advice will be so welcome.
Thank you in advance
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