Sorry to hear you aren't well - I've been so busy with a 10 day long celebration of 18th birthday with the temper tantrums squeezed in I didn't get to send my hugs to you and 1jay.Our health - the 2 jays in this household - hasn’t been great. For one of us it’s the struggle to get over THE VIRUS which has needed 3 lots of anti bios and is looking like needing another lot or something else as a chest is sounding like an old wheezy spluttering boiler. For the other, more blood tests and a scan is needed
Otherwise we are fine.
It took me a long time to get over the virus I had in Feb and whilst I am over it I am not back to anything like fully energy levels.
No - she doesn't do that at all, and she did continually acknowledge she was wrong and she had got overtired and this is what had happened. The meltdown was because she was overtired and needed the extra 15 minutes sleep. Dealing with the fall out took until Friday night. We think the underlying cause is A level related stress and not having mentally dealt with the bullying she suffered properly. She knows there is nothing to get stressed about in total re A levels but she desperately wants perfect results. She tries to fit too much in and wants perfection in everything so instead of enjoying what she is doing everything adds to her stress - including fun things like craft and baking.she would have 'reminded' you that she is 'grown up now' - and all the while, tantruming like a two year old
She does do a fair bit of chores, and after eventually with much arguments when she did tidy her room admitted it made her feel better and has kept it tidy.
She will be living in a flat of 10 next year so we are worried about her flaring with others as she always takes general comments as personal criticism and we had lots of talks last week about this.
Dau's party went ok, no stress with food, where a year ago she would have got stressed about things and she made brownies very last minute and kept calm. The party was mainly our friends as we have little family so was a family style party of adults she has known, our friends and neighbours. She got a bit tetchy if she didn't open the door to them and knocked me and son back but overall it was good. One of my very good friends who dau also gets on with only got there at 10.45pm as she had been running round country after her sons (left home at 7am, left york at 6pm taking son to loughborough on way home). We have a lot of cake left.
The walk to the bus stop wasn't as bad as she expected, and yesterday, when I was off work she walked so I could have a lie in (although only told me as I was getting ready to take her to bus stop - I did go back to bed).
Yesterday was my birthday and I took the day off, forecast wasn't great but it did stay dry, got to cycle on summer bike, normal route to Alyn waters via Padeswood, some split off and did a longer route up a hill and back down. My friend (who was late to party) hadn't slept well as she was stressing about her mum, who is 83. There isn't much to be done until her mum is less able, but she has started worrying. Her mum is in relatively good health, but was in hospital for weeks (maybe 8) needing heart treatment - delays due to lack of drs, and so lost some mobility whilst stuck in bed - if hadn't had delays would only have been in hospital for a few days. She has just given up golf as it is too much, but is still active and major issues seem some time off, but friend is worrying still as it is a step down.
As for my mum, we had her here for mother's day tea as we couldn't have her here on the Saturday, although I think I mentioned I took her cards round. She wasn't too bad, she played board games with the kids and enjoyed her meal with us.
We then had her round for her birthday and every time we said happy birthday she said 'Oh, is it my birthday today, it must be the 9th April' and we confirmed it was, this was when I picked her up, we got her to my house, we brought her cake in and when I dropped her off. Even at Christmas this wouldn't have happened and I know she had a UTI in I think Feb so she could still improve a bit but I think this is downturn of illness.
On dau's birthday, 21st April, dau wanted to see her grandma so we had her round for cake cutting, squeezed into a busy day. She struggled to stand up when I went to pick her up. She saw birthday banner on front dau and managed to remember it was dau's birthday when she first saw dau. We took her into garden as weather was so nice (hot Easter weekend) and by the time we produced cake she had forgotten whose birthday it was. Due to breeze I couldn't get candles to light outside, so we brought her back inside, which took some explaining. She enjoyed cake cutting and eating, but then I wanted to take her back and she didn't really want to leave. I think that without being inside playing board games there wasn't much to hold her interest and kids wanted to go in paddling pool etc so she felt she hadn't done much - but didn't know what. We persuaded her to go - had to rope OH in and then she really struggled to stand up again (using her frame both times).
Dau had really wanted her round but agreed it hadn't really worked very well and that might be the last birthday we bring her round for. Last year when we sat in garden with my 50th cake she didn't understand fully and it didn't' work so I think we need to go in living room with her again. Last year she did enjoy being in the garden, I don't think she did this year.
I haven't got any plans to bring her round for my birthday (yesterday). No idea when to fit it in, her tea is served at 5 so we try and be back with her by then, and she would be too tired in an evening. Kids are booked to see Endgame on Sat afternoon, Sunday son is fencing in Sheffield and Monday he is out with his mates (might be cinema again for a horror film - they've all seen endgame already) - last time they went to Sainsbury's for mother's day cards and then bowling alley to play on machines round the outlet village, and back to bowling alley. Very different to girls who would actually shop, whereas they are just a pack of aimless teenage lads - 11 of them this time I think.
When I took mum food round last week, she was asleep on her bed, and woke up to see me and then went back to sleep, but then woke up as I left, and wanted me to stay, which isn't' usual and she just seemed really clingy. I didn't have time to stay as son was at fencing and had to pick him up. She is so deaf it is hard to have any conversation with her. She did thank me for taking her food. I think she sleeps alot.
@Ann Mac - I hope Monday's chat with dau was productive, although I'm sure it will have come with a few tantrums.