So bizarre !

Ann Mac

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Hi everyone,

Not going to refer to the recent unpleasantness, other than to say that I've had messages on other social media telling me of many supportive responses, and I just want to say a massive 'Thank you' to all xxxxx

Laughing at the wonky organ, Amethyst - I, of course knew exactly what you meant and absolutely did not take it the wrong way :oops::p

Amy - hope the neurologist can help your Mum - it's so hard to know what is caused by the dementia and so easy not to consider other possible reasons, I often found that when dealing with psychologists and Mil, that they just concentrated on the dementia and never considered that other medical issues could be making the problems worse, or even causing them in the first place. I'm glad this guy is so helpful and approachable xxx

Hope everyone is enjoying their choirs and concerts, and that no one else is suffering from dealing with a wonky organ :D

It's mad that JM lives only 11 or so miles away, and didn't get as hammered by the snow. Collages and most schools didn't open again round here until yesterday (or in some cases, today, though that has been mainly due to damage to pipes and buildings, caused by the snow and low temps) and it wasn't until Tuesday night that I managed to get my car off my drive! It snowed pretty heavily from the early hours of Sunday morning, until very late Sunday night, with another not so heavy dusting early on Monday morning. That was followed by overnight temperatures of minus 6 degrees! No public transport to or from our village from Friday night until Tuesday afternoon, and I saw several near misses as car drivers tried to negociate the steep corner at the end of my road, and ended up sliding backwards down the slope!

Being housebound, I tried to catch up with admin - foiled again by IT issues and a replacement laptop that didn't allow me to actually access my work data base! Yesterday, I was able to get out, spent the morning at a project and the afternoon travelling to our nearest wros service, to connect manually to our intranet and persuade the replacement laptop to accept me as an 'authorised person' - I'm told that having done that, I should now be able to connect at home - we'll see:rolleyes:

Haven't been near Mil - though will hopefully be going today. Had a letter through telling me that there will be a 'review' of her CHC funding in January (to be honest, I hadn't actually ever been told that she was getting CHC !) . Not that it matters (because of the 117 funding) but will be interesting to see how if those who want to save money by withdrawing CHC will react to the statement from staff that I was given, saying that Mil really needs long periods of one to one care now?

I'll finish with a few photographs - my bird table has been incredibly busy - robins, chaffinches, blue tits, great tits, starlings, blackbirds, coal tits, gold finch, sparrows and jack daws - so a few shots of them, a shot from my bedroom window from very early Sunday morning - and just for fun, being housebound, dau and I put up the tree and decorated the house on Sunday. To try and persuade OH into the Christmas spirit (he can be just a bit of a grinch) we even decorated the downstairs loo - just for him :D I won't repeat exactly what he saiud when he walked in there and saw it, sufficve to say that dau and I were amazed when he labelled us mad and laughed like a maniac. I am sure all of you will agree that it is very tasteful, and as they say in South Wales, just plain lush :D
 

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CeliaW

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Welcome back xx

Lovely pics, the robin (the snow laden branches set him off perfectly) and the countryside pic are my two favourites. You have such skill with your camera - thanks for sharing your pictures. I don't often comment here or elsewhere but always have a browse ☺

Hope the laptop connects ok - fancy thinking you are unauthorised - tsk tsk, it should know better!

Take care xx
 

2jays

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:DIt’s me who is the baahhh humbug in this house.... have yet to look at decorating anything...

But now I’m excited and inspired!!! The downstairs loo is first on the list :D

@Amethyst59 moi?? Mukky ... tup’nce or puppy????

The organs I was thinking of were the school chapel organ... and the one in Durham cathedral :p

:D:D
 

jugglingmum

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Not posted properly on here for a while, was going to on Sunday morning and then events overtook me.

We have had a real wipe out virus. Dau was off school for 6 days, son for 5, I was off work for 2, although had urgent work to do, some of which I managed to do at home and I went back before I was well, one of the partners (I work for a partnership) cheered as I walked in the door.

Up until the weekend dau had been much better behaved, well on Monday she blew this big style. Instead of getting the bus home from school, she goes to the local library, and studies/reads and I meet her about 5.30, at the carpark near the train station. On Monday as I knew it would be below zero I suggested I pick her up from the library, but she said she'd be at car park. Well train was delayed, I texted as soon as I could (I get on at an underground station (the world's oldest deep station) and cross the Mersey in a tunnel), but the signal was intermittent, and the wifi wasn't working when I got on the train. So she had a real go at me for being late and not giving her enough notice as she was cold, didn't care that I had stood on a crowded platform, fought my way onto a crowded train, etc. I told OH, who told her off as well, expecting her to apologise to me, no chance.

Tuesday she was meant to be putting lights on tree with her brother, fight after fight ensued, I lost it with her when she threw a set of lights across room, and she had a go at me for snitching on her to OH about her go at me!

Wednesday (last night) son was making pastry for mince pies - dau was in bed having not slept well on Tuesday, she came in kitchen and had a go at him for not waiting for her, all hell let loose, she accused OH of causing it all. She told me in car on Wed morning it was all my fault for row on Tuesday, to which I pointed out that it was her fault for throwing lights across room

So at the moment we have a bare tree and pastry resting in fridge - not sure if Christmas is happening here. Daughter has lost her lifts home from school as a punishment (journey will take her over an hour by bus and 20 min walk). I pick her up on way home from work 3 days, and one day I drive there, other day I pick her up from bus stop. If it continues she will be walking to bus stop as well.

And to add to it, OH came off his bike on ice this morning and has skinned his cheek.
 

2jays

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Not posted properly on here for a while, was going to on Sunday morning and then events overtook me.

We have had a real wipe out virus. Dau was off school for 6 days, son for 5, I was off work for 2, although had urgent work to do, some of which I managed to do at home and I went back before I was well, one of the partners (I work for a partnership) cheered as I walked in the door.

Up until the weekend dau had been much better behaved, well on Monday she blew this big style. Instead of getting the bus home from school, she goes to the local library, and studies/reads and I meet her about 5.30, at the carpark near the train station. On Monday as I knew it would be below zero I suggested I pick her up from the library, but she said she'd be at car park. Well train was delayed, I texted as soon as I could (I get on at an underground station (the world's oldest deep station) and cross the Mersey in a tunnel), but the signal was intermittent, and the wifi wasn't working when I got on the train. So she had a real go at me for being late and not giving her enough notice as she was cold, didn't care that I had stood on a crowded platform, fought my way onto a crowded train, etc. I told OH, who told her off as well, expecting her to apologise to me, no chance.

Tuesday she was meant to be putting lights on tree with her brother, fight after fight ensued, I lost it with her when she threw a set of lights across room, and she had a go at me for snitching on her to OH about her go at me!

Wednesday (last night) son was making pastry for mince pies - dau was in bed having not slept well on Tuesday, she came in kitchen and had a go at him for not waiting for her, all hell let loose, she accused OH of causing it all. She told me in car on Wed morning it was all my fault for row on Tuesday, to which I pointed out that it was her fault for throwing lights across room

So at the moment we have a bare tree and pastry resting in fridge - not sure if Christmas is happening here. Daughter has lost her lifts home from school as a punishment (journey will take her over an hour by bus and 20 min walk). I pick her up on way home from work 3 days, and one day I drive there, other day I pick her up from bus stop. If it continues she will be walking to bus stop as well.

And to add to it, OH came off his bike on ice this morning and has skinned his cheek.

Sooooo a normal quiet week then :eek: :eek:

HOW do you do it??? How do you deal with all this AND keep sane???

We had a daughter like yours... nightmare of dramas/unreasonable behaviour/it’s all parents fault.

It was only when we told her, very firmly, that we were not her friends, we were her parents and she had to obey our rules, not make us obey her rules...

thankfully she didn’t flounce off/run away from home.... which is what I expected her to do...

she is now the most loving, supportive adorable person. Now she is an adult. Hold on. Your daughter is an intelligent person. Probably like mine, a perfectionist. Little things like manners probably don’t figure in her life just now, but, in my opinion, she has them, once she gets past this stage, she will show you what excellent parents you are.


I wrap you in arms of sympathy/empathy what ever is suitable and understand that you just have to deal with it don’t you xxxxx

Ouch Mr juggles :( I bet that is really stinging xxx
 

Amethyst59

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Not posted properly on here for a while, was going to on Sunday morning and then events overtook me.

We have had a real wipe out virus. Dau was off school for 6 days, son for 5, I was off work for 2, although had urgent work to do, some of which I managed to do at home and I went back before I was well, one of the partners (I work for a partnership) cheered as I walked in the door.

Up until the weekend dau had been much better behaved, well on Monday she blew this big style. Instead of getting the bus home from school, she goes to the local library, and studies/reads and I meet her about 5.30, at the carpark near the train station. On Monday as I knew it would be below zero I suggested I pick her up from the library, but she said she'd be at car park. Well train was delayed, I texted as soon as I could (I get on at an underground station (the world's oldest deep station) and cross the Mersey in a tunnel), but the signal was intermittent, and the wifi wasn't working when I got on the train. So she had a real go at me for being late and not giving her enough notice as she was cold, didn't care that I had stood on a crowded platform, fought my way onto a crowded train, etc. I told OH, who told her off as well, expecting her to apologise to me, no chance.

Tuesday she was meant to be putting lights on tree with her brother, fight after fight ensued, I lost it with her when she threw a set of lights across room, and she had a go at me for snitching on her to OH about her go at me!

Wednesday (last night) son was making pastry for mince pies - dau was in bed having not slept well on Tuesday, she came in kitchen and had a go at him for not waiting for her, all hell let loose, she accused OH of causing it all. She told me in car on Wed morning it was all my fault for row on Tuesday, to which I pointed out that it was her fault for throwing lights across room

So at the moment we have a bare tree and pastry resting in fridge - not sure if Christmas is happening here. Daughter has lost her lifts home from school as a punishment (journey will take her over an hour by bus and 20 min walk). I pick her up on way home from work 3 days, and one day I drive there, other day I pick her up from bus stop. If it continues she will be walking to bus stop as well.

And to add to it, OH came off his bike on ice this morning and has skinned his cheek.
Oh Lordy. I have four children...two girls, two boys. And the girls were definitely more trouble. It will pass...but it’s horrible to live through. Hold tight...you and Mr Juggles are doing a good job, and your hard work will pay off. And as far as Christmas is concerned, I predict that Christmas Day will see you all around a beautifully decorated tree, munching home made mince pies.
You could take a leaf out of my eldest daughter’s book. She is not going to have troublesome teenagers. She is going to laugh, and be light hearted. She is not going to be made angry. Her daughters are five and one now.
Now, surely that raises a smile!!!
 

Slugsta

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Afternoon all,

Ann, I'm afraid I missed 'the unpleasantness' so have no idea what has gone on but am very sorry if you have been upset (((hugs))).

The photos are lovely although I have to say that I do tend to agree with your OH about the décor in the loo :D

I hope the CHC assessment goes well. As you say, MIL will be fully funded anyway but it will be interesting to see someone trying to cut the CHC element.

Amy, I am glad you are snug and warm - and that you are free from snow. I hope everyone else is safe.

Speaking of wonky organs, I must be careful about putting my mucky thoughts into type as I got a rap on the knuckles on Sam's thread :oops: Trust me to bring a subject down to my level! :p

We have just one string of lights around our lounge window and the cards are strung up in the hall. I think we will look at getting a tree in the sales, it seems rather bare at the moment.

It is mild and wet here. Nowhere near as pretty as snow but far warmer and safer! I am going to a carol service with BFF this evening, we go most years, it is held by the senior school to which her sons used to go and of which she is still a governor. You can't beat a really good carol-sing :)
 

Amy in the US

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This will be a bit scattered. Don't feel left out if I forget to mention anyone. I'll get back to you.

Ann, lovely to see you and thank you for the updates and the photos.

I'm sitting at my back sliding glass door, hoping to get a jay or cardinal photo but they are elusive this morning. It's snowing just a little bit, enough to be decorative. It better not do more than that as I have errands to run, and the Christmas party at my mother's care home later this afternoon.

I got so lucky with my mother's neurologist and I'm genuinely grateful. I wish I could clone him and have him treat all our PWDs.

I posted in the Oh Christmas Tree thread, but we have a tree (got it Sunday) and thanks to OH last night it has lights, and that's as far as we've gotten. I did throw some candy canes at it but it looks pretty bare.

Ann, I LOVE what you've done with the loo, really love it. If you're stuck in the house you might as well decorate. Last year I went a bit mad with some snowflake decals in our downstairs tiny loo and my OH also pronounced me crazy. However, you win with the lights, the jaunty Father Christmas toilet seat cover, and of course the tinsel wrapped around the water pipe. Maybe you have inspired a trend.

I hope it was a fun time with your daughter, Ann.

Sorry you still have IT issues. Ugh.

JM, very sorry to hear about both the illness in your house, and the teenage transport tantrums. I also don't know how you do it.

Slugsta, I'm hoping you can find some Christmas spirit, even just in small bursts. I'm sure it's very hard this year. Maybe Ann will come over and decorate for you!

I'm sure that's not everything I wanted to say, but it's what I've got for now. I really need to get moving but there is a cat who just perched on my lap-no doubt out of seeking warmth rather than affection!

Love to you all.
 

jugglingmum

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Tooth saga still ongoing. Infection not cleared so my dentist not prepared to do anything but remove it. She could refer me to a specialist, which would have cost £700, so I've had it removed. It cracked off a little bit as it came out, which she said is why it kept getting repeat infections.

Feeling very sorry for myself, due to go to canoe club xmas Chinese banquet tonight, and not sure I'll be in the mood, especially as OH has decided not to go (he stopped canoeing a while ago, whereas I stopped about 3 years ago). Dau is also meant to be coming with me, so toothache, stroppy teen and struggling to eat do not sound a good combination.
 

Amethyst59

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Tooth saga still ongoing. Infection not cleared so my dentist not prepared to do anything but remove it. She could refer me to a specialist, which would have cost £700, so I've had it removed. It cracked off a little bit as it came out, which she said is why it kept getting repeat infections.

Feeling very sorry for myself, due to go to canoe club xmas Chinese banquet tonight, and not sure I'll be in the mood, especially as OH has decided not to go (he stopped canoeing a while ago, whereas I stopped about 3 years ago). Dau is also meant to be coming with me, so toothache, stroppy teen and struggling to eat do not sound a good combination.
Oh, merry Christmas...this one is going to be remembered for a while! Poor love.
 

jugglingmum

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No snow left here (well a little bit of snowman remains)

I want to go not sure daughter actually does, although I booked her in for it, OH doesn't really want her left at home either.