Hello everyone,
Slugta, I'm glad the funeral went as well as it could, and I hope that you are OK - I sometimes think that funerals are the start of the most difficult times. I remember Mil, when Fil died, saying repeatedly that she would be 'OK' once we had had the funeral, that she would be able to 'think straight' and things would be 'settled'. And I think that's an expectation that a lot of us have, and then we discover that it's afterwards that it hits - as Spamar says, although I don't think we realise it, we get through the funerals on adrenelin or even on auto pilot and then crash sometime after it. So, just know we are all thinking of you, and here if you need us, hun xxxx
JM, I'm sorry to read that you're ill x If you feel you can't manage work, then please don't go - chances are you will just prolong the lurgy unless you take some time now. I am glad the AB's have worked, but the business with the tooth sounds long drawn out and very uncomfortable. Got fingers crossed that there is no more swelling, and the dentist can sort it with a filling and crown, rather than you having to go through more intensive treatment xxx
Just after youngest was born, I was able to give up work for 5 years, to be a stay at home mum. I had a new baby, son was just diagnosed with the dyspraxia/dyslexia and at that stage it was like living with a tasmanian devil, and Mil had begun to suffer from several health problems - the COPD in particular at that point left her with numerous nasty chest infections, and she was often depressed (or maybe it was the start of the dementia, with hindsight!) . So I took a long break from work to deal with all that. Anyway, being a SAHM, I was able to see to things like the lunch boxes and getting the kids up, etc, and when I did go back to work, it was part time - so I guess the kids got used to me doing most things. In hindsight (again) it obviously wasn't a good thing, and I should have made them do more! They had to take their turn at washing up, and keep their bedrooms clean and tidy, but in reality, that was about it. Youngest seems to have now realised, after several rows, that she must set her own alarm clock, but rows have continued over the state of her bedroom - we had another unpleasant meltdown last night when OH removed her internet access because once again, her bedroom floor was awash with dirty clothes, towels and heaven knows what else
Why are you not happy about the idea of Cambridge, if you don't mind me asking? Did your brother have a bad time there?
No snow here Spamar - well not yet! I am like you - if I can possibly avoid driving in that type of weather, I will! I didn't know that hybrid polecats/ferrets happened! We had 'something', about two years ago, that for several weeks I spotted running along our garden fence just as it was getting light - I could never make out just what it was, other than definitely not a rat - I still wonder if it was polecat or ferret - and now I can add 'hybrid' to my list of suspects!
2jays - when are you off on your jollies? I'm away for all of this week, so I'll wish you a fab time now, in case I miss you x
Went to see Mil yesterday, to find she was once again in her room on 'time out', though she seemed quite calm when we went in to her. She was mostly watching a film (an old Tarzan movie - wish I could be a fly on the wall to see what delusions emerge as a result of that one!) and could only spare us the odd few bits of conversation. She did tell me that 'Ann' had come to see her 'yesterday' and had 'been on the cadge, as usual'! Staff brought her lunch in while we were there, and whilst Mil focused on the food, I had a quick word. The staff explained that at the moment, Mil is more or less requiring one to one care again. If they turn their backs, even for a few minutes, she will get into an argument or get nasty with someone
So, as a preventative measure - and because at busy times like meal times, despite high staff numbers they can't spare someone to watch her every second - if they see her start to get agitated, they get her to her room. It sounds like they get her there very tactfully, its certainly not presented as a punishment or anything like that, and at the moment, doing this seems to be the most effective way of calming her down. She isn't there all the time, by any means - but she is there more and more frequently at the moment. I need to find the time to have a proper chat with staff and find out exactly what's going on with Mil, if they have arranged new meds - and what is likely to happen if her behaviour gets worse? I don't think that there is any danger of her being asked to leave, but the mention of her needing one to one staff set alarm bells ringing for me, and I wonder if there is a possiblity of another CHC assessment if the home think her needs have increased to the extent that she needs that support.
In a couple of hours time I'll be on the road, heading for a 5 day residential intensive Welsh course. I like spending time with my co-workers, the place we are going is absolutely beautiful - but this close to Christmas, and with all the admin I have piled up, I could so do without it! Also slightly worried that, from the website description, and despite what my boss has said, we are going to be expected to share bedrooms. With my erratic sleep my tendency to wake in the night, and getting up at stupid o'clock, sharing would be a nightmare, not least for the poor soul forced to share with me. A workmate, who is in her 7th month of pregnancy feels exactly the same - so I am hoping that my boss has somehow arranged for us to have our own rooms! I've also read that they 'make use of the natural resources' to teach Welsh in a practical way - which means lessons outside the classroom. That would suit me fine - except that the place is basically on the Llyn peninsula, in the foothills of the Snowdonia range - stunningly beautiful area, but not somewhere that I would find easy to walk around. As well as Welsh lessons, the location offers 'holidays for those who enjoy hill walking!' - not something I can do with my back and hip, much as I would like to. There is no TV, no radio (no signal, apparently) so not sure if my phone will work, and although there is wifi, I would imagine that in that area, it isn't too reliable. I can live without the TV and radio (I have my kindle loaded with books, that'll do me) but I don't like the idea of being potentially cut off from OH and the family, either.
I'm pretty much packed, so all I have to do now is shower and get going. I am giving myself over an hour extra to get there, and am taking a route which offers me plenty of opportunites to stop and stretch if my back or hip play me up - I've planned several stops along the way - and coincidentally, most of them are in area's where there is stunning scenery, so I suspect that I may grab a few shots at the same time
I doubt if I am going to be able to check in until next weekend at the earliest, so in the meantime, everyone look after yourselves, and much love to all of you xxxx