(((JM))) I hope that the funeral goes as well as these things can. I hear you all, all you lovely people who have depleted your own stores of energy - and sometimes of hope - in caring for others. A 'few' years of that can take a very long time to recover from. I won't say 'get back to normal' as, just as with pregnancy and childbirth, there will be a new 'normal' eventually.I am sorry that the 'system' is so weighted against you and there is so little help, support or appreciation available. We took Mum for her routine blood test today (thyroid and stroke), then out for her usual hot choccy and cake. The wardens said that Mum refused her meal on Monday evening and Mum said she did not think she would want anything tonight after a big snack when we were out. Mum loves her snacks so much, I don't want to deprive her of them - but I don't really want her to have these rather than eating a proper meal. Or does it really matter at her age? I have heard back from only one of the care agencies I emailed. They cannot take on any new clients at the moment as they don't have spare staff. Do you think the Memory Clinic might be able to do anything to help?