The past few days I have been staying at the coast on the Gower in Wales as I needed a break. On the way home today I called in to Neath to see Jan's eldest sister, who is 15 years older than Jan, to bring her up to date as she never visits Jan in her care home. [Jan is the baby of the family.] When we were talking I suddenly noticed - for the first time, really - those of her expressions and mannerisms that are the same as Jan's once were - and sometimes still are. Facially they are quite similar, though I never thought that before. My memory of how Jan was before she became so devastatingly ill has faded so I guess my brain is playing tricks with me. Has anyone else had this unnerving and very upsetting thing happening? I really found myself badly affected by it.