I have posted a couple of threads before but not really had time to visit this site much due to visiting my Dad in his nursing home and try and carry on with my own life.
The last time I was on here I said my Dad had been discharged to a new nursing home after being in hospital with a severe water infection. Unfortunately my Dad is now back in hospital with aspirating pneumonia. I have been told by the consultant this is due to food and drink going into his lungs without our knowing.
We were told on sunday when he was admitted he had 24 to 48 hours to live but he is still with us.
I thought I would post this thread as I find some comfort in talking about this. He is on what the hospital call 'the pathway' which I have heard someone mention before on here. I know he is not going to recover as if we give him any food or drink it will carry on going into his lungs and they cant put him on a drip with fluid as I have been told his lungs will drown.
I keep having feelings of guilt over what is happening, that I cant give him anything to drink, although I have been told he can have it if he wants it, which I was able to do the other day on a sponge and he seemed to want it. Now he is too weak to be bothered with anything.
It just seems barbaric to leave him like this, its like starving him and dehydrating him to death!
I have logical moments when I think this will just keep happening anyway if he carrys on being given drink or food and other times when I feel in dispair I cant not give him at least something to drink.
You would think in 2009 there would be a more humane way of dealing with this.
I am now just hoping he is comfortable and in no pain as he is unable to let me know if he is. Also that he passes away peacefully soon as no-one should have to suffer like this, especially my Dad as he is such a lovely, caring thoughtful man who looked after my Mum before she died.
I would like to hear if what experiences other people have had like this.
Val
The last time I was on here I said my Dad had been discharged to a new nursing home after being in hospital with a severe water infection. Unfortunately my Dad is now back in hospital with aspirating pneumonia. I have been told by the consultant this is due to food and drink going into his lungs without our knowing.
We were told on sunday when he was admitted he had 24 to 48 hours to live but he is still with us.
I thought I would post this thread as I find some comfort in talking about this. He is on what the hospital call 'the pathway' which I have heard someone mention before on here. I know he is not going to recover as if we give him any food or drink it will carry on going into his lungs and they cant put him on a drip with fluid as I have been told his lungs will drown.
I keep having feelings of guilt over what is happening, that I cant give him anything to drink, although I have been told he can have it if he wants it, which I was able to do the other day on a sponge and he seemed to want it. Now he is too weak to be bothered with anything.
It just seems barbaric to leave him like this, its like starving him and dehydrating him to death!
I have logical moments when I think this will just keep happening anyway if he carrys on being given drink or food and other times when I feel in dispair I cant not give him at least something to drink.
You would think in 2009 there would be a more humane way of dealing with this.
I am now just hoping he is comfortable and in no pain as he is unable to let me know if he is. Also that he passes away peacefully soon as no-one should have to suffer like this, especially my Dad as he is such a lovely, caring thoughtful man who looked after my Mum before she died.
I would like to hear if what experiences other people have had like this.
Val