I do not have any answers. I am just so glad I amnot in the same position.
I do not think you are a coward, I just think you are under enormous pressure and you do not really know what the ulterior motive is for your sister.
I am with you in spirit.
Jeannette
I think she is out to hurt Mum and I think she is devious, sly and manipulative.
If she drives me out of mum's life, mum has no one, she lives 2 hours away, she only visits for a few hours, won't have Mum in her house and never stops overnight. Mum forgets how to use her television, washing machine, she has set fires, three recently, she gives her bank details to strangers who ask, she falls over at least twice a month sometimes three times a week and there is only me to avert disaster. I am the polices' contact, the panic necklace, it's me that gets the calls, as I am there in a couple of minutes, the ambulance people know mum and I. I get calls outs for emergencies 24/7.
That reminds me I need to check if sister has changed the emerency number to hers which will be useless 2 hours away, particularly with their being a risk of fire which clearly is very dangerous for mum. If I go to mum she may hit me, she will verbally abuse me, so I'm not much use until the next crisis anyway.
My sister tried to get her life support turned off TEN FLIPPING YEARS AGO, she told her to do nothing when her feet and hands went blue, so she didn't as sister was a nurse and came visiting with an infection the she knew could kill mum. I seriously think there is something very wrong with her. Mum has dementia, my sisters problem is much harder to work out.
There's something not right going on and I can do nothing about it. So if anyone has any ideas I am feeling desperately worried. I've told Social Services but they say if Mum enjoys her visits there's nothing I can do.