One of the staff at her care home asked if my wife had a winter coat as her sister had been there wanting to take her out – I wouldn’t have done as it was still very cold – so I have been sorting that out. I have now put labels on a coat, a puffer jacket, 2 body warmers and some long knickers that she used to like wearing in the winter. I’ll take them up today when I go for the pantomime. Her sister has been on the phone twice, once when I was visiting my wife then yesterday morning when I was stirring my porridge. I let that go to the answer phone. Her messages were that my wife was aggressive when she visited - there is some correlation there - and that she was wondering about her clothes as she didn’t have a winter coat to wear … Unfortunately her sister doesn’t get that, no matter how many clothes I take up, my wife will contrive to ‘lose’ them or bundle them in an untidy heap in her wardrobe then stop me or the staff from sorting them out. It was May when she first went into residential care which is why I did not pack a winter coat. Her sister may be genuinely concerned, but her messages come across as somewhat critical so I haven’t bothered ringing back.