My mum has been in a nursing home for nearly 4 months now. She was in a care home for a year where she broke her hip and then in hospital for 8 weeks. We looked at about 6 or 7 nursing homes. We liked the first one we saw and the social worker had told us there were vacancies. When we visited we were told there were about 12 people on the waiting list so were very disappointed. We subsequently found out that we could get a place in there if my mum was prepared to share a room, with a view to moving into a single room when one became available. We were very dubious about this but went ahead as it seemed to be the best nursing home.
The room share didn't intiially appear to be a problem until the nursing home said that mum and her room mate were arguing at night and asked if they could move my mum into another shared room with someone else. We refused to do this as my mum didn't seem upset by this arguing so we wondered what was behind the request. We told the nursing home that we didn't want to move my mum to another shared room and then unsettle her again when a single room became available. Also, the lady in the other shared room, who was a very nice lady, had recently been released from hospital and was very agitated and restless. Nothing more was said about the matter. I am sure single rooms must have become available because, sadly, there have been several deaths over the last few months. However, we were never offered a single room and didn't pursue it.
This evening I received a telephone call asking for my consent for my mum to be moved to a single room! Her room mate's sister is moving in and, naturally, they want to share. However, her room mate doesn't want to move rooms, even though there is another double room available. We didn't have to agree and if we hadn't her room mate would have had to move. That would have meant that my mum would have been alone in a double room. However, the other bed would have been needed at some time and we had no way of knowing who she would have ended up sharing with.
I went to the home tonight and saw the room. It was very nice with a garden view so have agreed. The only worry is that my sister went to see my mum earlier and said she seemed very agitated. I found her the same tonight, even though my sister had not long left. She was very shaky, which I though was due to her Parkinson's disease, but I noticed when she'd calmed down later that she had hardly any tremor at all. I hope the move isn't going to be too hard on her, even though she's only moving down the hall.
The amusing thing is that my mum's soon to be ex room mate is telling the other residents that her sister is coming to stay tomorrow and the other residents seem to think it is a manifestation of her dementia (not their words, what they said was more like 'well, I'm not sure about that, let's hope she's not disappointed'.)
I seem to have rambled on for ages about nothing much at all. Next time I go shopping I must get a life
The room share didn't intiially appear to be a problem until the nursing home said that mum and her room mate were arguing at night and asked if they could move my mum into another shared room with someone else. We refused to do this as my mum didn't seem upset by this arguing so we wondered what was behind the request. We told the nursing home that we didn't want to move my mum to another shared room and then unsettle her again when a single room became available. Also, the lady in the other shared room, who was a very nice lady, had recently been released from hospital and was very agitated and restless. Nothing more was said about the matter. I am sure single rooms must have become available because, sadly, there have been several deaths over the last few months. However, we were never offered a single room and didn't pursue it.
This evening I received a telephone call asking for my consent for my mum to be moved to a single room! Her room mate's sister is moving in and, naturally, they want to share. However, her room mate doesn't want to move rooms, even though there is another double room available. We didn't have to agree and if we hadn't her room mate would have had to move. That would have meant that my mum would have been alone in a double room. However, the other bed would have been needed at some time and we had no way of knowing who she would have ended up sharing with.
I went to the home tonight and saw the room. It was very nice with a garden view so have agreed. The only worry is that my sister went to see my mum earlier and said she seemed very agitated. I found her the same tonight, even though my sister had not long left. She was very shaky, which I though was due to her Parkinson's disease, but I noticed when she'd calmed down later that she had hardly any tremor at all. I hope the move isn't going to be too hard on her, even though she's only moving down the hall.
The amusing thing is that my mum's soon to be ex room mate is telling the other residents that her sister is coming to stay tomorrow and the other residents seem to think it is a manifestation of her dementia (not their words, what they said was more like 'well, I'm not sure about that, let's hope she's not disappointed'.)
I seem to have rambled on for ages about nothing much at all. Next time I go shopping I must get a life
