I wonder how often does the care fall almost totally on one family member? Our family consists of myself and an older sister. I have two children, both almost grown up and she has 4 all adult, in fact three have left home now. We both have full time jobs although as a teacher she does have the school holidays. Relationships with our parents broke down a long time ago for her, and she didnt attend my Fathers funeral, and in the nine years my mother lived in Chichester before moving to the nursing home in London she visited about three odd days. the last time she saw my mother was a year ago, I have never found out exactly what happened but apparantly they agreed to never see , speak or hear from each other ever again. None of her children are the slightest bit interested in their Grandmother although she even funded the university education of one of them. I cant help feeling very bitter about this. I know this is a whingy post but im just back from yet another very difficult visit with my mum, and I dont see why mum doesnt see at least I am there and bothering about her and caring for her even if I cant work miracles whereas her other daughter hasnt been near!