Thanks everyone
I really think when someone is at the end of their dementia journey things need to be balanced more. Yes a right to life is an absolute right, but a right to dignitiy, humane treatment and family life have to be balanced out in the decision making. What is the point of being OTT with my mum who is clearly ill with a life limiting disease, which clearly is now bringing her life rather rapidly to a close and which is untreatable/incurable.
The situation in the care home is that they are not accepting hospital discharges. The home holds 105 residents, broken down into seperate units. Mums is on one of the EMI units and it has 18 residents. Mums unit had been covid free, which of course is a relief. However the CH are short staffed and struggle to cover shifts. To cut a long story short, a nurse who was on the unit with covids a week later was then working on mums unit and now not surprisingly covid is on mums unit. I'm not angry at the fact mum has covid, there is always a risk it may happen especially in care (though I am worried), I am angry at how this has all been very quitely brushed under the carpet. I know this happened because I actually spoke to this nurse as I was put through to the wrong unit when I called to see how mum was, and he told me he could not leave the unit to go to mums unit to hand over the mobile phone (which they sometimes do). A week later I called mums unit and he answered the phone -thats interesting I thought, but I didn't let him know I'd clocked it.
Anyway I have been bullish and demanded a facetime, which will take place later today so I can see how mum is for myself -they have obliged rather more than usual.