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Sorry to read this especially the bit about lack of response from GP. It is shocking - so difficult to get response from docs at the moment. Just shocking especially when linked to meds’ they have prescribed.Again thanks everyone. I visited mum this morning and she had rallied but not the same as before. I drove over to my informal visit pre interview and on the way back again popped in to see my mum. She had done her usual shuffle and was in a recliner when I visited. I got her to drink about 600 mls as she is bone dry after having bumetanide twice a day (a diuretic). I spoke with F who was on duty today and she told me the GP had not visited which instantly got my back up. F was saying she feels its a mix of things but mums falls are occuring more and more recetnly. I corrected and said that these are not falls that she is collapsing due to the water tablets drying her out too much and when she stands up her BP drops suddenly so she collapses. F said she felt it was more than that so I asked if the GP has reviewed all of this to which see said the GP said it was not an urgent matter . Seriously, the GP prescribes a drug they know can cause falls and they don't review when there are problems??? Meh watch this space! I know my mum is frail and likely to pass at some point, but this is not acceptable by any means!!!
Thanks @DreamsAreReal . I'm just catching up on online advice as this seems odd to happen now at a time when there has been a flurry of new faces in the care workers. Reading some horror stories and thinking that its odd the bracelet after all this time and lots of things happening has suddenly vanished. I think I am going to have to raise this on Monday as a potential theft. I also called to see how my mum was on Tuesday and ended up with the Ops manager on the phone and she was quite suspicious in her manner when she asked why I was calling and said 'I know your mum very well, can I help you?' err no I said I want to speak to her nurse not you! I found that quite inetresting when the Ops manager doesn't work in the home or have anything to do directly with residentsThat’s dreadful. I hope you get them back and it turns out be a misunderstanding or something. If you can’t trust them not to rob the vulnerable residents, what else are they up to? So upsetting
Oh dear. My mum's gold bracelet and necklace disappeared suddenly too, after she'd been in the care home a couple of years. Again, it was a time when there were agency people coming in. Just as with your mum, I had to discount any reasonable explanation: the bracelet had a strong clasp and mum could not undo it herself. She never took it off, or the neck chain - they were her 'permanent' items.A long week, not helped by the fact I swapped with a colleague to help them out.
I finally spoke with mums GP on Thursday and set things straight over recent events, as by the time the GP was told the history by different staff it had changed some what from the original events -in that moment the penny dropped finally! I wasn't pleased that the GP had still not visited and it turns out there was another resident more unwell than my mum the GP had also refused to visit. I don't like making formal complaints, but I can feel one coming on PDQ! On top of this mums wedding ring and gold bracelet have vanished without a trace . The bracelet had a steadfast/robust clasp on it so it must have been undone to remove as it is too small to slip over mums hand. As for the wedding ring this is the big one for me and the most upsetting -my mum has never in all her married years taken it off, not even in the throws of dementia. I don't know what to do for the best, but the CH are being very quite about it all and I can't help feeling with so many new agency care workers (some of who seem dubious) it may well have been stolen.
Like your experience there is no way the bracelet could have 'just' come off and mums wedding ring never moved even after her weight loss it still stayed in place given her knuckle was the problem in removing it due to arthritis. My mum would never have removed her wedding ring and she had never attempted to and like your mum there is no way she could have removed her bracelet full stop.Oh dear. My mum's gold bracelet and necklace disappeared suddenly too, after she'd been in the care home a couple of years. Again, it was a time when there were agency people coming in. Just as with your mum, I had to discount any reasonable explanation: the bracelet had a strong clasp and mum could not undo it herself. She never took it off, or the neck chain - they were her 'permanent' items.
Sadly I had to put it down to theft, as did the manager who was genuinely horrified to think she had someone on the staff she couldn't trust. I asked about any similar instances and she was a bit vague... Of course, we're always told that any valuables should be removed before the person enters the home which makes sense, but you should not have to protect your loved one from theft in a care home. Mum's bracelet was supposed to come to me - the only bit of her jewellery I actually liked! It matches the necklace of hers she gave me umpteen years ago (and which I wear all the time) and we always joked I'd get the matching bracelet when she popped her clogs.
It's just horrible to think someone could steal from a vulnerable person, but it must be extremely easy. My mother was forgetful, suggestible and paranid at the time, plus she was asleep a lot. Anything would have worked, e.g. 'Would you like me to put these in the office safe for safe-keeping?' Done in the residents room there are no witnesses so no proof of wrongdoing, and the fact the person has dementia just muddies the waters so the thief can get away with it.
I'm really sorry, Simon.