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Thanks @Peace lily for your openess. I have since had two sessions in finding out the best way forward and my therapist has agreed with me some counselling might be the first thing to do. I confess I am not the easiest of people to open up to someone in that way which is why I write so much on TP -it kind of goes into a void on a forum that is full of emotions. Strangers know us best sometimes I guess.Hi @Palerider, I'm pleased to hear from hat you're starting to feel a bit better. It's a frightening experience when you become overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings beyond your control. I too am on medication (have been for a while) and had counselling in the past. The most helpful thing that I have discovered is something called 'solution focused hypnotherapy.' I have had four sessions so far and it has made a massive difference. You don't discuss the past, as this can bring up traumatic feelings. It focuses on positive action, positive interaction and positive thinking. That is a simplistic way of explaining it. You can't control or change past experiences or predict future ones. It helps you to change your way of thinking. It's really helped with my anxiety, which was getting out of control. Google it and see what you think?
Thanks @Sarasa, its difficult because alot of these carers are good people but new to dementia in its advanced stages, they mean well but don't grasp that dementia is life limitingThat sounds like a good visit @Palerider. I guess the carer was trying to be kind, but those sort of comments aren't really helpful. I remember mum's friends telling me not to worry about my mum as she was fine, when it was obvious that she really wasn't. I just smiled, thanked them, and started to talk of something else.
I hope Satyrday went ok for you
Yeh suddenly there isn't another voice of reason -not easy. I miss being told that its ok there wasn't anything more I could do, so of course the doubt is always wating in the wings to creep in@Palerider I understand why you have cut your visits to your mum as it is a long way and she is no longer herself. I get a lot of what you are saying especially not being able to visit your sister. Since dad has gone I have nowhere to go anymore and I miss that but dad was still himself and full of fun, just no memory.
Reconciling the past few years is not easy and will take time. I hope the counselling helps.