sicut animam suam : 'it's just life'

[Weasell]

Such sad news.
Sending my condolences.

 

[Grannie G]

My sincere condolences @Palerider. You have had a really dreadful year and I hope you have the strength to come through it.

 

[lemonbalm]

I'm so sorry. Please try to look after yourself.

 

[Palerider]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. Not the easiest of seasonal times by far -possibly the worse Christmas in my personal diary so far.

I crashed at about 2am and managed to sleep finally. Its been one of the longest Christmas periods I have ever known, but its over now and we are in 2021, at least Karen managed to get to the New Year and leave 2020 behind -what a year!

I am off to pick up the pieces and console Steve, I don't how I am functioning this morning but I am so far. I think the drive their will trigger some emotions as I pass through many places we both grew up in and knew as kids. It hasn't hit me yet, but I know it will at some point, sually resulting in me ending up in an emotional heap. I hope today is better for Steve, but I'll see how he is and take things from there. The kids have been amazing with this journey and they deserve a medal.

I have been asked if I will tell mum. No I won't be telling her because she is past that stage now of recalling who we are and I don't want her upset if somehow by some small chance she can remember.

 

[Helly68]

@Palerider I am so sorry to hear this. Sending condolences and thinking of you and your family

 

[Bunpoots]

My condolences @Palerider . Sending strength to you and your family.

 

[Melles Belles]

So sorry for the loss of your lovely sister (same age as me which is v sobering). You have had a truly difficult year and now you will be supporting her husband and children. Make sure you find time for yourself so you can grieve. Wishing you all strength

 

[Lorna44]

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, sending you lots of love for the coming days.....
I lost my brother suddenly 2 years ago and it was one the hardest things ever, we made the decision not to tell mum, as she wouldn't have understood & I couldn't cause her any more pain.
please look after yourself. Xxx

 

[Duggies-girl]

So sorry for your loss @Palerider It all seems to have happened very quickly. You have been a wonderful support to your sisters family and I know that you are going to continue to be but you have got to take care of yourself too.

I agree that your mum does not need to know that she has lost her daughter which just adds to the sadness.

Wishing you lot's of strength xx

 

[notsogooddtr]

I never told my Dad that his beloved younger daughter or his wife of 63 years had died. He did sometimes ask where they were, I would say M.... (my sister) would pop in after work and that Mum had gone to the shops. My thoughts are with you, it will be 7 years on Monday since my sister died it seems like yesterday

 

[DeBlonde]

@Palerider I am so very sorry for your loss, take care of yourself.

 

[Palerider]

Thanks everyone. Another long day. Anyway we have got the process rolling and a funeral director has been appointed to the relief of the hospice as Steve had froze until I arrived and got things moving . Not much can be done now until Monday.

I am still in disbelief, it was only a few weeks ago we were sat chatting at home and planning Christmas

 

[Woo2]

I’m sure it will take some time to sink in ?, thank goodness your mum does not need to know it would break her heart . X

 

[Palerider]

Middle of the night, mums had a fall and they have taken her to the hospital, her she has painful swelling on her hip. I doubt they will do anything if she has broken it. On my way to sit with her as they sent the home escort away ??

 

[jennifer1967]

oh dear. you are going through it at the moment. hope your mum hasnt damaged it too badly

 

[Izzy]

Oh @Palerider I’m so sorry to hear this. I do hope that your mum isn’t too distressed and that they can manage her pain well. I’m glad you are going to able to sit with her.

 

[Sarasa]

So sorry to hear about your mother. I hope there is nothing too amiss and your mother can return to her care home soon.
Do take care of yourself, you can't have had much sleep these last few days.
You are really going through the mill. {{{@palerider}}}

 

[Grannie G]

Yet another big worry @Palerider. I`m so sorry.

 

[Woo2]

Oh no , I am sorry @Palerider , hoping there is no serious damage done ?

 

[canary]

OMG, it just never seems to end for you at the moment!
I do hope that she has not fractured anything and she can be discharged back to her care home soon
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