My goldenboy brother has just sent me a solicitors letter saying they have reason to believe that I've not acted in Mum's best interests. In other words, happy to see me get a criminal conviction. Fed up with his meanness with paying for care, I applied for deputyship (hes also got a dodgy tax record). Right now I'm staying with her, just been up to lift her onto the commode and reassure her after we spent the day in hospital with a suspected broken wrist, hubby put up rails that I've asked golden boy to put up for months if not years. She can hardly walk due to no physio (too expensive). At a best interests meeting recently, the hospital said she should live on ground floor but he refused to evict lodgers. Lodger was stroppy that she used the downstairs loo after hospital visit today. He's cut the once daily carer down as I'm staying. He's never spent an overnight with her, shes stayed with my family, in my daughters room for weeks or I've stayed with her for weeks. Shes 94 and living 4 flights up. Despite all this, hes still goldenboy !!! ******
PS. When he visits, maybe monthly, with his family they get a nice big takeaway and give her some. Or he does the walk up the road or church do, so the neighbours can see what a golden boy he is. Meanwhile I'm clearing some space among the debris that's collected over the years, cleaning the patio, doing the garden, getting rid of moth eaten clothes, things that go with owning 5 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms when you can't throw things away. And we're living in a tiny house with 2 adult kids and no ground floor bathroom, which is why she can't stay with us. But I can't hate him as he's all I've got and I know he's being controlled by his neurotic wife.