Siblings and Attendance Allowance Money seems to bring out the worst in people doesn't it? I think you have had some good advice from other posts here so won't develop that thread except to say that AA is a right and is not means tested. Do you think the other siblings are in denial? My mother had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and vascular dementia and money had been haemorrhaging out of her bank accounts, she was not paying her bills, she frankly stank because she was not washing and had lost half a stone because she was not eating - yet he still maintained that she was 'just a bit forgetful' in her old age and if we put a calendar on her wall with all her appointments on it, she would be fine. Of course, if you forget to read the calendar or you don't realise it is on the wall... Some years on and he still does not want to face the fact that his mother has dementia. We have POA between us but he has turned on me numerous times accusing me of all sorts of fraud, theft, etc. As a result I thought about abandoning mum and just letting him get on with it. But I knew he wouldn't - so I make sure I keep meticulous books on what she spends and what I spend on her behalf (and why) and also ensure that I keep books and have enough money to keep me and my family should it ever be queried. For what it is worth, you have my support and sympathy.