Apologies if this is in the wrong section or already been discussed (I did have a quick search) but how much should I be helping mum vs letting her work it out for herself? I do help her with her shower (get clothes ready and make sure she does have a shower) and get her pills out to make sure she doesn't forget or have an overdose. Should I leave her to do the rest i.e. work out how to use her tablet PC, get her clothes when we go out etc? I have snapped at her when she wants to wear her indoor clothes out (scruffy jogging clothes) and she likes to wear multiple vests and T-Shirts (last year she wore one when it was 30degrees warm). I am aware if I do stuff for her, she will give up but sometimes we have time pressures and really need to get stuff done quickly. Any advice, dad says she should do stuff herself but is this the correct approach even when I can she can't work it out?