In January my Mother in Law Died and this left my husband's father to look after. We new he would not buy nutrional food as they had eaten poorly when she was alive and he would not change so we took to making up meals that he could re heat. He also need assistance putting on shoes and socks as he has false hips and steel pins in his legs to his knees. We noticed he used to forget things and obsess about other things, had the odd occasion of hallucinations and would not sleep. over the last 5 months things have got steadily worse not going out when he does takes ages to do things, like make a cup of tea, burnt his food, stopped eating the food we have taken or does so after wks in the fridge. We can not get him to wash or change his clothes and will not let you wash any bedding. things went missing and it is always someone else that has taken it. The last 6 weeks have felt like living in hell as we spend ages trying to get him to go to bed and eat. Will not leave the house has become incontinent and will not put the heating on. Sounds chirrpy if you get him on a happy mood other times he blanks you or starts to be abusive with his language. has no idea what room is which now and the care workers have noticed the doctors have been out and sent him for mobility tests but nothing has been said to us his family.His eldest son wants him to live with him and his wife and says that he is only tired. but after reading the website and speaking to a friend who works in mental health says it could be dementia he wil no accept that we have an health issue. any advice or help is really appreciated from a very tired and cold helper