My dilemma may be a common one; My mother's memory has deteriorated a lot these past 2 yrs or more to the point now where she has forgotten that most of her family, brothers, sisters, parents, and even her husband (my father) have passed away. She talks very much in the past, using present tense for times and things of the 1940's/50's. The hardest thing is when she starts pondering where my dad has got to, and I am at a loss as to whether I should remind her that he passed away some 10 years ago - she was with him at the time. The same with her parents, and she keeps things aside for 'when they come back'. At first this was taken as 'the resurrection' but lately this has changed to 'they are away on holiday'. I got frustrated once and told her straight that they are all gone; up in Heaven, and she went really quiet for half an hour and I thought ' my God, what have I done ' but then she was off again about when her parents come back and I breathed a sigh of relief!! My question is this; Should I remind her that these people, especially my father as she is now thinking he has gone off with someone else, are deceased? Her remaining brother sat her down and explained to her that their parents had gone, and the years they died but then the next week she had forgotten the conversation altogether. It must be very confusing for her, and it upsets me too when I am constantly reminded of close family members and friends who are no longer on this earthly plain. Should I tell her when she asks - what should I say?? I am at a loss. Thanks to anyone with any helpful ideas. I guess there are many in similar situations.