If it was my grandmother I wouldn't move her.

On another thread Skyping was suggested as a way of keeping in touch ... would this work for your grandmother? Perhaps Skype contact could replace much of the long distance journeys you're currently making.

 

I think the care home people are right. Although I am still learning about Dementia the one thing I am sure about is that a move for your grandmother would not benefit her she sounds really happy and content. My mum lives with me now, 150 mile move away from the rest of the family and I have found skpe to be really helpful, mum sometimes thinks the person we are skping was actually visiting us. any chance this could be set up in the care home? a member of staff could help if you Skype at a specific time.

 

Another vote for no I'm afraid. The stress of the move, the new surrounding and new faces would be a huge thing to do at her stage of life.
I think what you're doing going every week is above and beyond the call of duty and I admire you for it but I think a better solution would be reducing the number of visits you make and leave her where she's from the sound of it happy and well cared for, you don't know how rarer a situation that is, many on here will be envying you for having that. Too bigger risk of it all going horribly wrong for me I'm afraid.
K

 

Evening Tiddles,

Firstly, what a nightmare for you to lose your mother and have your grandmother with dementia. I cannot imagine how awful it's been for you.

Secondly, my advice to you would be just as the others have said. Leave your gran where she is. If she is happy and content you really cannot ask for more. You have enough grief to contend with and you have little people relying on you too.

Take care

 

I agree with all of the above. There is anecdotal evidence that residents do not respond well to a move such as this.

Think about it. You move her and visit for, what, say five hours a week? That would still leave her in the care of complete strangers for the other 163, and that doesn't seem fair. The CH is her home and the staff are to all intents and purposes, her adopted family, and if she seems happy, then let her be.

I would have thought a visit every 3 - 4 weeks, given the distance, was perfectly acceptable. Leaving dementia out of it, unless your relatives live close, most of us visit family far less that that.