Hello I am new to Talking Point but have joined to get some help wrestling with a dilemma concerning my lovely Granny. She is 94 and has been in a care home in Devon for the past 2 years after she was diagnosed with dementia. My mother was diagnosed with cancer at the same time and was unable to look after herself and her Mum. My mother has since passed away and I have become the sole carer for my Grandmother. I try and visit her every week but it is a 5 hour round trip and I have 3 young children. I like the home she is in and she always seems content and well cared for and the staff are truly fond of her. She is always pleased to see me when I visit and although I sometimes think she may think I am her daughter we never fail to have things to talk about and she loves seeing her Great Grandchildren when they are not in school and I can bring them. My question is should I risk upsetting her life to move her to a care home nearer to me so I can see her more often and take her out to see her family and on trips. She is remarkably fit for 94 and still climbs stairs and enjoys a sherry and a good pub lunch. The owner of the care home advises me not to move her for "my benefit" as I have to consider how the move will affect her immediate world where she feels safe and secure. She forgets my visits within half an hour of leaving so would it matter if I went more times? I go back and forth with pros and cons and would really appreciate some input. Thank you for reading my post.