Should I insist on Day Centre?

[Scarlett123]

I couldn't have managed without Day Centres. My sleep was disturbed so much, that I longed to have a couple of hours in the day, and Day Centres helped enormously. It was a battle getting him a place, and then £9 an hour (!), some of which we paid, and some was paid by Social Services, but so worth it.

 

[LAP]

My OH is in early stage AD and for some time he's been happy to sit on the sofa all day, reluctant to go out much, as long as he can watch the TV (without taking anything in), cuddle the cats or "read" a book.
I have to work at home 3.5 days a week and since his diagnosis various medics and social workers have suggested he needs more interaction with people (as well as reducing my anxiety about what's happening while I'm working with clients upstairs). So after we both visited a day centre which specialises in dementia care, I set up a once weekly visit.
But every Tuesday morning is a nightmare of nagging to get him up, dressed and fed before I have to start work and the transport is due. The last two weeks he had a cold and refused to go, but we still had to pay the retainer fee.
Am I right to keep on insisting he goes? ( I confess part of me was hoping he'd settle with it so that it could be increased as things progress. )He's perfectly pleasant to the minivan driver and comes back having enjoyed the lunch but says people don't talk much.
However, though lots of professionals have tried to persuade him, he won't hear of people visiting to chat or take him out....I'd be glad of your thoughts on this, fellow TPers.

Take anything on offer, you don't know when you need more help. My husband wasn't keen in November but I insisted and he has been now 4 times, every Tuesday.
Last week I was told I had to have a brain operation on Feb 4th, social services no help, would have only sent carers in a few times each day so husband would have been on his own most of the time and certainly overnight. What a nightmare! However he has agreed to go to the respite area within the day centre. He can go downstairs to the day centre every morning if he so wishes, I do believe he will because he likes the staff. At least I know that he will be very well looked after, and safe . friends / relatives are able to pick him up in the afternoon and evening to come into the hospital to see me, which will allay his fears I hope.
If he hadnt been to the day care centre we would have had a major problem getting respite care for him in a place he hasn't visited.
So whatever is on offer, take it. You never know when you will need it. My situation came as a GREAT shock.
Best of luck
Lillian