My OH is in early stage AD and for some time he's been happy to sit on the sofa all day, reluctant to go out much, as long as he can watch the TV (without taking anything in), cuddle the cats or "read" a book. I have to work at home 3.5 days a week and since his diagnosis various medics and social workers have suggested he needs more interaction with people (as well as reducing my anxiety about what's happening while I'm working with clients upstairs). So after we both visited a day centre which specialises in dementia care, I set up a once weekly visit. But every Tuesday morning is a nightmare of nagging to get him up, dressed and fed before I have to start work and the transport is due. The last two weeks he had a cold and refused to go, but we still had to pay the retainer fee. Am I right to keep on insisting he goes? ( I confess part of me was hoping he'd settle with it so that it could be increased as things progress. )He's perfectly pleasant to the minivan driver and comes back having enjoyed the lunch but says people don't talk much. However, though lots of professionals have tried to persuade him, he won't hear of people visiting to chat or take him out....I'd be glad of your thoughts on this, fellow TPers.