After years of not seeing my extended family a couple of deaths and a near death experience has put some of us back in touch. All in all a good thing. My PWD has been going to see his sister, who has had a stroke. One of my cousins has been picking him up and taking him over and during the school holidays I have picked up and taken my uncle. She has taken them more than I have because I cannot take time out during term time.
At first my cousin said that other than being old, you wouldn’t think there was anything wrong with my PWD. He is excellent at going in to hostess mode.
When we spoke recently, she said that she has noticed a difference in him. He has lost weight and they asked him how many years was it since Ann (his wife) died. His response was “who?” When they said Ann your wife he just shrugged and said he didn’t know as though Ann was a complete stranger. He was again in hostess mode as she also said he was chatting to everyone and was in good form.
Something didn’t sit right with me when she suddenly said that she was going to try to go over to see my PWD every week and she could do some cleaning etc. Maybe convince him to have careers coming in and to have an attendance alarm. Me and my sister haven’t been able to get him to agree to have these things and when he did agree when his assigned SW came out to draw up a care plan, he sent the carer and the lovely lady who came to fit the attendance alarm packing!
Whilst it is very kind of her to offer, I couldn’t help but ask why now? Our family haven’t really been in contact for at least 26 years. Is it wrong of me to be suspicious?
At first my cousin said that other than being old, you wouldn’t think there was anything wrong with my PWD. He is excellent at going in to hostess mode.
When we spoke recently, she said that she has noticed a difference in him. He has lost weight and they asked him how many years was it since Ann (his wife) died. His response was “who?” When they said Ann your wife he just shrugged and said he didn’t know as though Ann was a complete stranger. He was again in hostess mode as she also said he was chatting to everyone and was in good form.
Something didn’t sit right with me when she suddenly said that she was going to try to go over to see my PWD every week and she could do some cleaning etc. Maybe convince him to have careers coming in and to have an attendance alarm. Me and my sister haven’t been able to get him to agree to have these things and when he did agree when his assigned SW came out to draw up a care plan, he sent the carer and the lovely lady who came to fit the attendance alarm packing!
Whilst it is very kind of her to offer, I couldn’t help but ask why now? Our family haven’t really been in contact for at least 26 years. Is it wrong of me to be suspicious?