Hi,
I haven't posted for a while but I need to ask your advice re fil. as you probably know we have had so much trouble with him as he keeps on about going back to his flat. He has deteriorated further however he believes there is nothing wrong with him and every time we see him the conversation goes the same way. Visits do not go well and he keeps saying he doesn't want to see us anymore as we are keeping him locked up. we can't even get someone to take him out anymore as he refused to get back in the car until they called the police, which they did!! We are waiting for the Dols to go to the court of protection. It seems social services have allocated a solicitor to represent his case as he is so adamant he should be able to go back to the flat and we don't understand why this is being done as every dols assessment says he is in the right place. Another assessment has been done very recently and both the dementia nurse and the psychiatrist say he has deteriorated further and he recommended that a years DOLs should be put in place. Maybe you can tell me why this is going to court with a solicitor for him. We are worried that the solicitor will only put dad's case forward and not submit any evidence that he lacks capacity and every assessment says the same conclusion, he needs to be in a 24 hour care facility. He is also virtually blind.
Evidence He is not sleeping at night and the staff in the care home seem to be up half the night with him pacing and getting agitated. He has just been prescribed Metazapine to hopefully help him calm down as he is not sleeping and is exhausted. THE sundowning is getting worse and he deteriorates from early afternoon daily getting more and more irate and agitated.
Anyway, the psychiatrist saw and his notes and commented to the manager that he didn't seem to have a DNR form. He asked the home to speak to hubby as he has poa to sign the form on fil behalf.
Hubby says he can't talk to his father about the DNR as he will not undesirable it. He will also get into a huge battle with his father saying that he just wants to get rid of him. however, when the poa was signed 2 and a half years ago he spoke to him about life saving treatment and he said he wouldn't want to live unless he could still do things. so if he had a stroke or something he wouldn't want to survive and he gave hubby poa so that he could make the right decisions for him if he easnt able to.
Should hubby sign the dnr then and not mention it to his dad do you think or should he try to speak to him first.
So first the court of protection and then the DNR, what do we do
Thanks for reading
Lori
I haven't posted for a while but I need to ask your advice re fil. as you probably know we have had so much trouble with him as he keeps on about going back to his flat. He has deteriorated further however he believes there is nothing wrong with him and every time we see him the conversation goes the same way. Visits do not go well and he keeps saying he doesn't want to see us anymore as we are keeping him locked up. we can't even get someone to take him out anymore as he refused to get back in the car until they called the police, which they did!! We are waiting for the Dols to go to the court of protection. It seems social services have allocated a solicitor to represent his case as he is so adamant he should be able to go back to the flat and we don't understand why this is being done as every dols assessment says he is in the right place. Another assessment has been done very recently and both the dementia nurse and the psychiatrist say he has deteriorated further and he recommended that a years DOLs should be put in place. Maybe you can tell me why this is going to court with a solicitor for him. We are worried that the solicitor will only put dad's case forward and not submit any evidence that he lacks capacity and every assessment says the same conclusion, he needs to be in a 24 hour care facility. He is also virtually blind.
Evidence He is not sleeping at night and the staff in the care home seem to be up half the night with him pacing and getting agitated. He has just been prescribed Metazapine to hopefully help him calm down as he is not sleeping and is exhausted. THE sundowning is getting worse and he deteriorates from early afternoon daily getting more and more irate and agitated.
Anyway, the psychiatrist saw and his notes and commented to the manager that he didn't seem to have a DNR form. He asked the home to speak to hubby as he has poa to sign the form on fil behalf.
Hubby says he can't talk to his father about the DNR as he will not undesirable it. He will also get into a huge battle with his father saying that he just wants to get rid of him. however, when the poa was signed 2 and a half years ago he spoke to him about life saving treatment and he said he wouldn't want to live unless he could still do things. so if he had a stroke or something he wouldn't want to survive and he gave hubby poa so that he could make the right decisions for him if he easnt able to.
Should hubby sign the dnr then and not mention it to his dad do you think or should he try to speak to him first.
So first the court of protection and then the DNR, what do we do
Thanks for reading
Lori