P rang from work, 11.30 this morning to say Care Connect had contacted him due to an emergency call from his Dad and Mum, emergency buzzer pressed.
He couldn't leave work, he works 40 mile away anyway, and I have son at home (as usual) through illness (he has a 'bead' in his ear and was due to have another attempted syringe this afternoon.
Anyway, they attended to the call, to find that my mother-in-law, who is 92 and disabled through arthritis, had been pushed to the floor by Father-law, who is 89 and had mixed dementia.
They used an inflatable bag to bring her to her feet.
She said she was ok, shaken up obviously and by the time I got over with son ( pre-lug-hole procedure) pa-in-law was dozing in chair, all forgotten.
They'd squabbled ....no, not right....MIL had berated him for not going into the bathroom for a wash and a shave and push led to shove!!
She is rooted to her routine.
Breakfast 8am.
Wash etc. 8.30
Clean bathroom 9.30
She woke him at 7.45....he didn't want to get up, she made him.
He dilly-dallied over breakfast...well, I'm sure you can guess the rest.
P is beside himself with rage and worry. It was his last day at work for a week (he has a weeks holiday booked for next week, son is in respite for 3 nights, P and I are due to go to London for 2 nights on Tuesday, our first break together for 11 years).
I rang social care direct, FIL HAD a social worker but was signed off as MIL and he decided they didn't need help.
We decided it wasn't a good idea to regard it as a safeguarding issue (police ) but they have arranged for a carer to come from tomorrow morning, mornings only at the moment but MIL is already saying she doesn't want anyone to come every day.
I had a LONG, gentle talk with her, I totally understand where she's coming from but with P waiting for news about surgery, what else can we do?
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He couldn't leave work, he works 40 mile away anyway, and I have son at home (as usual) through illness (he has a 'bead' in his ear and was due to have another attempted syringe this afternoon.
Anyway, they attended to the call, to find that my mother-in-law, who is 92 and disabled through arthritis, had been pushed to the floor by Father-law, who is 89 and had mixed dementia.
They used an inflatable bag to bring her to her feet.
She said she was ok, shaken up obviously and by the time I got over with son ( pre-lug-hole procedure) pa-in-law was dozing in chair, all forgotten.
They'd squabbled ....no, not right....MIL had berated him for not going into the bathroom for a wash and a shave and push led to shove!!
She is rooted to her routine.
Breakfast 8am.
Wash etc. 8.30
Clean bathroom 9.30
She woke him at 7.45....he didn't want to get up, she made him.
He dilly-dallied over breakfast...well, I'm sure you can guess the rest.
P is beside himself with rage and worry. It was his last day at work for a week (he has a weeks holiday booked for next week, son is in respite for 3 nights, P and I are due to go to London for 2 nights on Tuesday, our first break together for 11 years).
I rang social care direct, FIL HAD a social worker but was signed off as MIL and he decided they didn't need help.
We decided it wasn't a good idea to regard it as a safeguarding issue (police ) but they have arranged for a carer to come from tomorrow morning, mornings only at the moment but MIL is already saying she doesn't want anyone to come every day.
I had a LONG, gentle talk with her, I totally understand where she's coming from but with P waiting for news about surgery, what else can we do?
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