Do you think shingles is lifethreatening to someone in the 'end stages' of vascular dementia. My mam has lost vast amounts of weight in the last few months her size 10 trousers are hanging off her she is like a skeleton. We have just been informed she now has shingles. Also yesterday when I was visiting, my mam wanted the toilet. Unfortunately she has a toilet obsession. and so the carers have put a limit on how often she gets taken to the toilet. I think she is allowed to go every 2 hrs. I was pretty sure she genuinelly wanted to go yesterday and they took her very reluctantly. Lo and behold she had wet herself. She is not incontinent and that is part of her toilet obsesssion. She does not want to wet herself. I have spoken to the senior nurse at the home and said what if my mam doesnt want to go when they allow her but 10 mins later she genuinelly does want to go? She said they would take this into account but somehow I dont think this is happenning.They are actually making her incontinent.