She wants him to go into care ..because she dreads him coming home. She wants a place where she can be with him - but not look after him on the bad days. It's a very strange day when the situation goes round 360 degrees. On so many occasions I've supported them in every decision, but this took me out of my comfort zone. But now I research a nice place where Dad gets the care that he needs and Mum gets to be with Dad, until he changes and then she can leave him with the care team. There are other problems but totally insignificant...must go and get a "coffee" - need time to think! Thank you for listening - it's wonderful to have someone to talk to!