1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. ridunian

    ridunian Registered User

    Aug 27, 2014
    11
    Advice needed please. We have come to the stage where my husband can no longer shave himself with a razor and foam (without looking as if someone's trying to kill him !) I found his old electric shaver and thought "This is just what's needed" That lasted 2 days as he is the sort of person who likes to take things to pieces, (always has done , but those days he could put things back together again ) That shaver is now in the drawer with all the watches ,torches etc. etc. that will never see the light of day again, but not on any account be thrown away !!!! Do I now buy a new shaver , or let him cut himself to pieces with foam and razor, I have tried shaving him myself but oh does not like that , and suggestions of growing a beard were shouted down . How have others coped at this stage , HELP !!!!!
     
  2. LynneMcV

    LynneMcV Volunteer Moderator

    May 9, 2012
    3,464
    south-east London
    It's difficult isn't it?

    I was really worried about this stage coming along so, when my husband was in the earlier stages I convinced him to let me have a couple of trial runs in shaving him. It boosted my confidence a little, if not his!

    We are at the stage now where he struggles. He still wants to shave but misses large areas. I usually say something like 'you've done a good job - would you like me to do the small bits you can't see?'

    My husband is so keen to be clean shaven that he would probably say yes to the Demon Barber of Fleet Street if he had to - so he lets me finish the job.

    Maybe if you play to his vanity a bit - say how nice he looks, how well he's done etc before you offer to help with the 'finishing touches', he might be a bit more amenable to the idea?

    My confidence was strengthened when my son said it was practically impossible to cut the skin during shaving unless you slide the blade sideways across the skin. I shave mostly downwards and at an angle around the various contours of his face, whatever works! I also pull helpful faces for him to copy when I get to difficult areas (moustache area, under bottom lip and corners of the mouth).

    So far he has remained presentable (but definitely not shaved to the standard he used to do himself) and more importantly, he remains unharmed :)

    We always finish off with a splash of his favourite aftershave which also makes him feel happy about the whole experience.

    Good luck!
     
  3. irismary

    irismary Registered User

    Feb 7, 2015
    499
    West Midlands
    My husband liked to be clean shaven but was cutting himself so went to electric razor and now I pretty much have to do it. I pull the faces I need him to pull but it doesn't always work - I must look most odd. Could you hide the razor in the airing cupboard under some towels? I do tell him I am obliged to shave and wash him as he is so handsome it would be wrong not to - he laughs and is mostly cooperative.
     
  4. vannesser

    vannesser Registered User

    Apr 4, 2016
    245
    Racers

    My ho don't like the bladd shavers and always has electric I help him as he misses a lot some times he lost his racer ones so I put hair remover on his face not for long those but it worked don't no how we will do it later down line but no beard for him
     
  5. CraigC

    CraigC Registered User

    Mar 21, 2003
    6,630
    London

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