I have recently been taking mum for afternoons out of the care home whilst the weather has been lovely and sunny as it is making me feel very sad to see mum cooped up in the care home. She will not go into the care home gardens or join in any activities and just sits miserable waiting for me in her room.
I have been trying to let mum enjoy some of the lovely sunshine lately with little outings. However, when I have taken mum out for the day or afternoon, she gets very mixed up and forgets that she has to return back into the care home again and doesn't even recognise it when we get back. . Consequently, she is shocked when I take her back again, and at times gets either agitated or a bit depressed. I then have to settle her down again before I leave and sometimes mum gets cross and nasty with me. When we are on our outings she is really happy experiencing different things.
Am I making a mistake by taking mum out of the familiar surroundings and the daily boring routing she has. When we are out and about she thoroughly enjoys the outings and becomes her old self again. I am kind of living for the moment and treasure the special times we have together.
I am just wondering though, is it worth trying to give mum a break from the care home environment, or am I causing her too much confusion.? Shall I give up or carry on with our outings? I am trying to give mum some quality of life and a taste of normality , but, is it too late for this? Shall I bother to do it again or just give up?
I keep thinking that this could be mums last summer and whilst she is able to get out and before this awful disease prevents her from outings I am always trying to grasp an opportunity to give her a happy time. Shall I carry on? Or am I being unfair by making her confused when she doesnt realise that she has to go back to the life in a care home at the end of our outings?
Any comments appreciated. x
I have been trying to let mum enjoy some of the lovely sunshine lately with little outings. However, when I have taken mum out for the day or afternoon, she gets very mixed up and forgets that she has to return back into the care home again and doesn't even recognise it when we get back. . Consequently, she is shocked when I take her back again, and at times gets either agitated or a bit depressed. I then have to settle her down again before I leave and sometimes mum gets cross and nasty with me. When we are on our outings she is really happy experiencing different things.
Am I making a mistake by taking mum out of the familiar surroundings and the daily boring routing she has. When we are out and about she thoroughly enjoys the outings and becomes her old self again. I am kind of living for the moment and treasure the special times we have together.
I am just wondering though, is it worth trying to give mum a break from the care home environment, or am I causing her too much confusion.? Shall I give up or carry on with our outings? I am trying to give mum some quality of life and a taste of normality , but, is it too late for this? Shall I bother to do it again or just give up?
I keep thinking that this could be mums last summer and whilst she is able to get out and before this awful disease prevents her from outings I am always trying to grasp an opportunity to give her a happy time. Shall I carry on? Or am I being unfair by making her confused when she doesnt realise that she has to go back to the life in a care home at the end of our outings?
Any comments appreciated. x