shadow of her former self - and yet ....

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by noelphobic, Mar 23, 2007.

  1. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    #21 Margarita, Mar 24, 2007
    Last edited: Mar 24, 2007
    your right there Karen when you say
    also that use to help me (emotionally distance )when my mother acts like Brenda mother towards my brother , then for some reson I can't explain , I wish I could but can’t emotional distant myself , so useing that postive energy helps me .
     
  2. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
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    Unfortunately my brother is now my next-of-kin. But at least he isn't as bad as some of the other brothers round here.
     
  3. noelphobic

    noelphobic Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    3,452
    Liverpool
    It did occur to me that, if I were to complete an EPA for myself, my mother's son would be one of the 3 relatives that would need to be contacted if my son registed the EPA! He could therefore raise an objection to my son being my attorney (or whatever the terminology is)

    Wonder if there is a way of 'divorcing' brothers :D
     
  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    lol
    We can only dream lol :)
     
  5. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    When I registered Lionel's EPA his son and daughter wrote jointly to the court to contest my suitability to look after their father's affairs.

    Whilst this did throw a spanner in the works (because of an error in court, which was later resolved) the court did not just accept their word. They had to prove it to the court. In that respect the court was not unreasonable, although the long delay took its toll on Lionel's mental condition at that time.

    At that time Lionel had not seen his son for 3 years, and has never seen him since.
     
  6. noelphobic

    noelphobic Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    3,452
    Liverpool
    I'm glad the the court made the right decision Connie, but sorry that you and Lionel had to be put through the added stress of that.

    If I'd known there was ever the slightest possibility that my brother could have any say in who looked after my financial affairs I would have had a couple more children ;)

    He never seems to have any money and he has 2 children plus 2 grandchildren so doubt the boot will ever be on the other foot! I'd be more likely to be asked to pay his debts than look after his money :eek:

    Brenda
     
  7. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    That's terrible, Connie. Thank goodness the courts didn't back them. As someone said, 'Families!!!!'
     
  8. Libby

    Libby Registered User

    May 20, 2006
    625
    North East
    One of my brothers and I have had our differences in the past, but Dads illness, followed by Mum's AD has put all of that to one side. Reading all the other posts about families, I feel quite relieved that the 5 of us get on so well together.

    Libs
     
  9. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
    10,856
    Wigan, Lancs
    On the point of giving notice to your 'nearest and dearest' when registering an EPA - one of the plus points of the new 'lasting powers of attorney' now due to come in to force on the 1st October, is that at the time you sign the POA you nominate who should be given notice should anyone seek to register the POA with the Court of Protection.

    Hopefully this will avoid giving powers of veto to meddling relatives who up to that point have never given a toss:)
     
  10. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    london
    Libs


    That’s what I so want for my children as I have 4 , if not all going to go to the some charity:eek: :D , have to word it right in my will , mind you ! Or EPOA
     
  11. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
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    I suppose it is too late to adopt some ...

     
  12. noelphobic

    noelphobic Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    3,452
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    :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
     

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