My Mum is always coming up with new challenges for me. I wish I could be one step ahead of her but caring for someone with dementia is a learning curve all the time for me. I feel a bit disloyal posting on here about such a private matter however it is anonymous. Mum phoned last night to say she wanted a tea party for her two male neighbours (in their 80s) as she still felt quite young (she will be 87 this year). But the purpose of this party was to further the relationships in a sexual direction. She seems to be becoming frustrated in this department. I immediately told her one of them has a lady friend already and that made her think. I have several concerns: 1) I want to make sure Mum's needs are met in an appropriate manner 2) I hope the relationship with her neighbours does not get damaged. 3) It feels like another thing to worry about for me. e.g. what is she going to say to them? Should I have a chat with the neighbours or will it make it worse? Has anyone had a similar experience?