Oh dear, opinions please.....
Mum (86, moderate dementia, 18/30 MM) has a middle aged male neighbour who has visited her regularly for the past couple of years, done a bit of shopping etc. I've never really liked him or trusted him around Mum but couldn't put my finger on why, except for a few possibly dodgy financial transactions he's carried out for her...but always thought she was happy to have him around as she phones him a couple of times a day (I know this from dealing with her phone bills).
However, Mum has now said that he 'talks about sex' to her and has told her that 'what she needs is a man'. I know this is totally shocking, but my problem is that Mum has always made things up to get attention, even when she was quite well. She says she told him not to talk to her like that, but she's not very mobile and my mind is in overdrive.........
I don't know whether to believe what she says, tell SS and risk her 'being removed to a place of safety',(she is adament that she would never forgive me if I put her in a home ....her words!) or do nothing.
I don't even know why I'm asking, because I know that to do nothing is not an option!
Reassurance / opinions /boot up the backs*** anybody?
Thanks for reading
Carol
Mum (86, moderate dementia, 18/30 MM) has a middle aged male neighbour who has visited her regularly for the past couple of years, done a bit of shopping etc. I've never really liked him or trusted him around Mum but couldn't put my finger on why, except for a few possibly dodgy financial transactions he's carried out for her...but always thought she was happy to have him around as she phones him a couple of times a day (I know this from dealing with her phone bills).
However, Mum has now said that he 'talks about sex' to her and has told her that 'what she needs is a man'. I know this is totally shocking, but my problem is that Mum has always made things up to get attention, even when she was quite well. She says she told him not to talk to her like that, but she's not very mobile and my mind is in overdrive.........
I don't know whether to believe what she says, tell SS and risk her 'being removed to a place of safety',(she is adament that she would never forgive me if I put her in a home ....her words!) or do nothing.
I don't even know why I'm asking, because I know that to do nothing is not an option!
Reassurance / opinions /boot up the backs*** anybody?
Thanks for reading
Carol