Hi,
I'm new to this forum and hoping someone can give me or point me in the direction of some advice. I'm sure the situation is very familiar to many people.
My 87-year-old Dad, who is now physically quite infirm and has suspected vascular dementia, went into respite care at the weekend, after a very difficult few months both for him and my elderly Mum, who's been his full-time carer for a while now. Although it's respite care for three weeks my Mum can't cope with caring for him anymore and he has refused home care. He clearly expressed his desire to go into a home instead.
Now he's there, he's v confused and distressed He's been managing on associations for a while - needing everything untouched around him at home - and now he's in a new environment he can't make new ones/learn anything new. He keeps calling my Mum telling her how much he hares it, that she must take home and accusing her of cruelty. He's refusing to leave his room (not unusual - even when he was at home) and, I suspect, isn't treating the carers very well.
It's obviously incredibly distressing to see him in this state and I'm not sure how best to help him settle in and, worse, what happens if he doesn't and this continues My mum is at the end of her tether. His sight is v poor and he's not interested in anything so I don't think taking in familiar things etc will help.
Any advice gratefully received.
Thank you
I'm new to this forum and hoping someone can give me or point me in the direction of some advice. I'm sure the situation is very familiar to many people.
My 87-year-old Dad, who is now physically quite infirm and has suspected vascular dementia, went into respite care at the weekend, after a very difficult few months both for him and my elderly Mum, who's been his full-time carer for a while now. Although it's respite care for three weeks my Mum can't cope with caring for him anymore and he has refused home care. He clearly expressed his desire to go into a home instead.
Now he's there, he's v confused and distressed He's been managing on associations for a while - needing everything untouched around him at home - and now he's in a new environment he can't make new ones/learn anything new. He keeps calling my Mum telling her how much he hares it, that she must take home and accusing her of cruelty. He's refusing to leave his room (not unusual - even when he was at home) and, I suspect, isn't treating the carers very well.
It's obviously incredibly distressing to see him in this state and I'm not sure how best to help him settle in and, worse, what happens if he doesn't and this continues My mum is at the end of her tether. His sight is v poor and he's not interested in anything so I don't think taking in familiar things etc will help.
Any advice gratefully received.
Thank you