After much thought we have chosen a residential home which seemed the best placewe could for my mother who had been living alone with a great deal of support but who wasn't always happy. She had stopped being able to do things for herself.
Anyway, we took her last Friday and she has a lovely bed sit with all her things, photos etc. (Although she doesn't recognise the photos anymore.) The staff have been lovely every time we've been. They say she will settle after two weeks.
Last Tuesday I had to return lots of things she'd taken from other residents rooms! Today she hadn't taken anything but cried that she was unhappy and wanted to leave. She talks about her mum, though, and the house she left 50 years ago. She doesn't seem to refer to the house she left last week.
Nothing is real, despite the presence of a very large jolly chef she insists she cooks all the meals herself!
How long do I keep her there, a place that I was so sure was right for her, before trying her back in her own home with the carers dropping in as before. Or will she not recognise that place again?
Has anyone else advice on how their relative has settled?
Zadok
Anyway, we took her last Friday and she has a lovely bed sit with all her things, photos etc. (Although she doesn't recognise the photos anymore.) The staff have been lovely every time we've been. They say she will settle after two weeks.
Last Tuesday I had to return lots of things she'd taken from other residents rooms! Today she hadn't taken anything but cried that she was unhappy and wanted to leave. She talks about her mum, though, and the house she left 50 years ago. She doesn't seem to refer to the house she left last week.
Nothing is real, despite the presence of a very large jolly chef she insists she cooks all the meals herself!
How long do I keep her there, a place that I was so sure was right for her, before trying her back in her own home with the carers dropping in as before. Or will she not recognise that place again?
Has anyone else advice on how their relative has settled?
Zadok