Dad - doing ok
Moved him from temporary home to this permanent place two Tuesdays ago. He is polite and mannerly to everyone . talks about Olive ( his wife) all the time still saying about going home - he does not know where home is because when at home I'd be called to take him home.
As an engineer he is always looking at ways out. trying to unlock a window with a banana was one scenario last week !
The home staff are delightful and very switched on to his needs - he is one on one and challenging but they are confident. He hardly sleeps, instead he goes round at night with the staff doing jobs and helping.
I am, as is mum, keen to have him settle without fuss however ( and here is the dilema). MY sister is a trouble maker - estranged by the family 4 years ago after an embarrassing family disagreement - parents want nothing to do with her and the grandchildren have not been near for 4 years. She has found out dad is in care and demanding she sees him.
Sadly she is not the type to follow the strategies we all have to ensure dad is content. she wont follow the rules of no questions, no contradiction and no. she will cause upset and leave him emotionally unstable ... My mum does not want her visiting, he had nothing to do with her. Do we have any rights to stop her seeing her father?
The care home have listened to our concerns and visitors need ID - so they have taken it seriously.
we could all do without this stress especially as the grandson turned up to mum( 80 yrs old) door yesterday threatening her and demanding info
Moved him from temporary home to this permanent place two Tuesdays ago. He is polite and mannerly to everyone . talks about Olive ( his wife) all the time still saying about going home - he does not know where home is because when at home I'd be called to take him home.
As an engineer he is always looking at ways out. trying to unlock a window with a banana was one scenario last week !
The home staff are delightful and very switched on to his needs - he is one on one and challenging but they are confident. He hardly sleeps, instead he goes round at night with the staff doing jobs and helping.
I am, as is mum, keen to have him settle without fuss however ( and here is the dilema). MY sister is a trouble maker - estranged by the family 4 years ago after an embarrassing family disagreement - parents want nothing to do with her and the grandchildren have not been near for 4 years. She has found out dad is in care and demanding she sees him.
Sadly she is not the type to follow the strategies we all have to ensure dad is content. she wont follow the rules of no questions, no contradiction and no. she will cause upset and leave him emotionally unstable ... My mum does not want her visiting, he had nothing to do with her. Do we have any rights to stop her seeing her father?
The care home have listened to our concerns and visitors need ID - so they have taken it seriously.
we could all do without this stress especially as the grandson turned up to mum( 80 yrs old) door yesterday threatening her and demanding info