Have been having a short rest from the forum so missed your news @PalSal. So sorry to hear of your husbands fall and decline. Also probably have some idea of how you feel about his children visiting/ not visiting him. We‘ve got two children now in their late 30’s who are very reluctant to visit their dad in the home. It is a lonely vigil. My husband isn’t quite at the stage yours is, but I can see what the future holds through your posts. Although you feel alone my thoughts are with you.