My husband was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's at the beginning of 2016, though it had been obvious he was struggling with memory problems for at least a couple of years before. (His GP wouldn't accept he had a problem, and throughout he has been of absolutely no help whatsoever on the mental health side, though he is a good GP in other ways.) Now I have just agreed to have my husband admitted to a home for full-time care. He had become increasingly angry and threatening, particularly at 'bedtime', and my family were becoming increasingly anxious about my safety. Earlier this year I had an emergency operation, which they feel was caused by stress. My husband had to spend a month in care while I recovered, but for the past four months or so he has been back home with me. But this aggression has been frightening at times. He was at first given medication from the Memory Clinic to calm him, which helped. But a recent episode of his anger was a step too far, and I agreed with my family, and the support of an Alzheimer's support worker, to book him in for full-time care. However, over the past few days he has been more calm, and there's been little evidence of his previous threatening anger, and I'm wondering if we've done the right thing. Should I have persevered for longer? He is incapable of doing anything for himself, and is totally dependent on me for every aspect of life; but I am now fit and well (80 this year) and feel I should be able to manage him at home. Does everyone in this situation feel this awful sense of guilt - of feeling we should keep going whatever the cost to our own quality of life? I can't stop worrying about whether I've been premature in this decision, and too swayed by my family's concerns. How can one be sure the time has come to admit defeat?