I know the AD has been comming on the last 4 years at least but was only mentioned to me this February at first i cried for 2 weeks it was like a bereavment then i settled down into what i thought would be a few years of mother confussed etc but the paranoia is very active the last 3 weeks or so she has acused me of over doseing her to borrowing money 20 years ago off my brother who lives with her and has learning difficultys and never paying it back ,he has taken this to heart and believes it is soand it has made him very upset with me to the point of him screeming abuse at me and my family i was on the phone all day Thursday to her GP first (well his receptionist who was going in to talk to him then coming back on the phone and relaid to me his answer which was he will come down if i agree to be there to section her and he hadn`t even seen her this amazed me ,so i phoned her psychiatrist and spoke to his receptionist told her the story i was told to phone both my mothers and brothers social workers then ,phoned my mums was told as she is under the psychiatrist and has been for the last 20 odd years she cant do nothing needs to be a psychiatric social worker so phone my brothers ( but she isnt in for a few days and no one else to handle it so i told the person on the phone ) the situation as my mother is having parinod thoughts she is telling my brother who because of his learning impediment believes it to be true and things are getting out of hand ,if my daughter hadn`t walked in when she did to defuse the situation he could have become violent was told to phone back Monday he could have killed one of us by then .In the meantime her psychiatrist phoned me back himself when i told him the story he asked for my brothers social workers phone number and hour later the head of learning difficlty team phoned me said she would phone again Monday as things by this time had clamed down ,he also told me to request a GP visit but i was told unless it was to put her into hospital for he didnt want to come out phone Monday and talk to his partner talk about being given the run around .Of course my mother is unaware of any of this fuss and is quite hAPPY over there today as i run and get the shopping in give her and my broter there tablets put the food on etc i am totaly drained by it all not so much was has occured but as what will happen next ,already i am afraid unless the thoughts of me doing all sort`s of things to her subside i cant see how they will be able to remain living togeather as the situation is made 10 times worse with my brother going mad with me at her stories i did talk to him about it today and he understands its mams illness but he like my mother will forget again tomorrow What can i do ! just one last thing i read the posts on here and as mam havn`t been able to handle money for the last year at least i thought it would be good to tell her bank that i am invoved with it also and mam signed for me to be able to sort things out for her i had no card as i refused didnt see the point as i only get it out once a week for her shopping but yesterday she phoned and canceled that arrangment now today she wants to put me back Monday for her to sign me on again i told her i dont want anything to do with her money its to stressful ,she also told me a nurse came down and did the memory test in the house yesterday and is giving it to the DR so maybe thats a good thing three months into this nigtmare and i am already at my wits end one confussed person is bad but 2 i dont know which way to turn .Thanks for listerning