Hi, I need some advice please. I live with my Grandad who is 95 at his house with carers coming and going every few weeks.
He DOESN'T want to move to a home, My mother and Aunt moved him last year against his will and without him knowing, and he was livid! He protested and was then moved back home. I can hold conversations with him and the carer looks after him, he is Ok, and doesn't need a care home yet. I can tell this because he looked after my Nan who was in a worse state, and he was doing this all on his own. At the moment he is relatively low maintenance.
The problem is that my mother and aunt have power of attorney. And keep scheming to move him back to a home without hi knowing and against his will. I have had emails from her outlining certain financial inheritance TAX benefits of him going into a home... BUT he doesn't want to go and they keep ignoring his wishes.
She and my aunt keep trying... and I'm on my own fighting his corner.
I don't know how to handle this situation as the home he went into last year was for people with way more advanced dementia.
I know from dating a few people in the care industry that quite a lot of people who go in to a home really go downhill fast, and I can't help but think that the faster he goes downhill, the quicker they get their inheritance.
I know my mum has the motive as she has often said she resents his money and has wanted to ram it down his throat on many occasions, but at the same time they are not doing anything illegal.
Please comment - Thanks
He DOESN'T want to move to a home, My mother and Aunt moved him last year against his will and without him knowing, and he was livid! He protested and was then moved back home. I can hold conversations with him and the carer looks after him, he is Ok, and doesn't need a care home yet. I can tell this because he looked after my Nan who was in a worse state, and he was doing this all on his own. At the moment he is relatively low maintenance.
The problem is that my mother and aunt have power of attorney. And keep scheming to move him back to a home without hi knowing and against his will. I have had emails from her outlining certain financial inheritance TAX benefits of him going into a home... BUT he doesn't want to go and they keep ignoring his wishes.
She and my aunt keep trying... and I'm on my own fighting his corner.
I don't know how to handle this situation as the home he went into last year was for people with way more advanced dementia.
I know from dating a few people in the care industry that quite a lot of people who go in to a home really go downhill fast, and I can't help but think that the faster he goes downhill, the quicker they get their inheritance.
I know my mum has the motive as she has often said she resents his money and has wanted to ram it down his throat on many occasions, but at the same time they are not doing anything illegal.
Please comment - Thanks