Please, please, please - does anyone have any experience that may help me in my present predicament. Having just got my head around having to put mum into a temporary home due to my own health failings - I have just received a call from mum's SW to inform me mum has had a fall this morning and 'obviously they will keep a better eye on her now this has happened'. Doh - why isn't this par for the course. Then she followed it up with of course, we know she's going to have falls, as she was having them in hospital. Contradiction or what. If they know that why are they only reacting? Then I was informed I had to "negotiate" with the home over mum's fees. Excuse me but does anyone know what this means. Either there's a price or there isn't. Does this mean depending on how good our haggling skills are as to how good a deal we get? Finally I was informed that the care package arranged for mum will go this Friday and then I will have to start again and wait until something else becomes available. I've tried getting in the car to drive, but with my back at the moment, I can't even make it to the end of the street before I'm in acute pain - but if it kills me and if SW can hold package until Monday, this weekend I will be driving the 300 miles to mum. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH. Sorry but I am v. angry. It seems at every turn, the system does it's best to make things impossible. Oh and here's something that will probably make you all laugh - I've just called the helpline to ask if I can get hold of anything which will inform me of either my mum's or my own rights so I know what I can fight and what I cannot. We don't have any rights. Yep I know, how naive am I - thinking that any of us or our loved ones would have right on their side. Am just about to stick my head outside the window and SCREAMMMMMMMMMMMMM!