My MIL (no dementia that we know of but by accounts of odd recent behaviour I think maybe on its way, several TIAs a few years ago) is 88 and lives in Scotland. We are in England. My SIL, OH's sister is currently staying with her (she had a knee replacement op) and visiting us on Thursday so I have a chance to try and get them to sort things out. OH is a bit inclined to put his head in the sand (mostly due to historic family reasons from his childhood which was not great). SIL will do her best to sort things out but is resident in US so can only do so much and whilst staying in rural Scotland has little phone access and no internet. I want to try and give her POA forms on thursday, with OH named as an attorney and suggesting she is named as well and to send her back to try and get MIL to fill them in. Are they the same forms for Scotland? I didn't put replacement Attorney's on for my mum, so will suggest she has her son as replacement for her (he is 25 and US resident) and maybe offer to be a replacement for OH (don't really want to but my kids are too young and it is there Grandma). OH's brother may or may not want to be put on - but I think asking him may delay things - he will say he will, won't complete form and then say no several months later. He is a reluctant trustee on family trust set up in FIL's will. Is AA available in Scotland or equivalent? MIL has carers in to dress her post knee op at the moment, I assume this is reenablement or similar. She had similar after hip replacement 12 years ago. Recovery from knee op is slow (partly due to refusal to do physio) MIL was only allowed home as SIL had arrived from US (after over 3 weeks - she wanted to spend xmas with kids as first year post divorce). MIL is still walking with a frame 6 weeks after op and SIL flys back to US in 10 days. Apparently she has been paying all her bills etc by driving to local town and going to bank, nothing on DD and things went a bit pear shaped when she was in hospital for so long. How does it work with adding someone to bank account? I think SIL is trying to set this up but I think it would be better to put all on DD. Such a short time frame. Sorry lots of Q's and a bit waffly but have a short time frame to try and sot out.