Hi - I'm new to the forum, and just wanted to say hello. I'm Nick, and I am here as my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers a few weeks ago. It has been a very difficult time for her, and for me and my family - we have two young children, and I am disabled and running my own business. We live about 12 miles from my mother, and my brother lives a couple of hours drive away - he has his own health problems! I'm quite sure that I am not experiencing any new or unheard of, but I would really appreciate some advice and suggestions about a couple of things (to start with!) - please feel free to re-direct me to previous threads - no need to re-type whole sections!
Right now, there are a few major problems - first, money. My mother has plenty of money, but will not believe that she has. My brother and I have been through statements with her many, many times, and she has asked for temporary statements at the bank on enough occasions now to be seen as a nuisance by them. She claims she has no idea how to get or access her money, nor how to spend it - again, this has been discussed many times, has been written for her, printed off from a website for people with learning difficulties - as many ways as we can possibly think of - including taking her to shops, cashpoint, bank etc - I'm now considering explaining it through the medium of dance. The result of this is she is hugely stressed, which makes her day to day behaviour and mood swings more pronounced. She also says she has not got enough money to eat (she has!) - and so will not buy food. In effect, she starves herself (the second problem). The GP is very concerned about her weight, and has stopped her from taking donepezil prescribed by the consultant until she has put on some weight. Having said that, she is not able to manage her own medication, and has already taken an overdose which made her very ill. All this is compounded by her belief that people are going in to her house, moving things around and/or stealing them.
Anyway - enough waffling - I could go on forever! I should really appreciate it if people could firstly reassure me that these are not unique issues, and secondly offer any help or suggestions. Many thanks - Nick
PS - re. money side of things - she will absolutely not hear about power of attorney - been there, not a hope!!
Right now, there are a few major problems - first, money. My mother has plenty of money, but will not believe that she has. My brother and I have been through statements with her many, many times, and she has asked for temporary statements at the bank on enough occasions now to be seen as a nuisance by them. She claims she has no idea how to get or access her money, nor how to spend it - again, this has been discussed many times, has been written for her, printed off from a website for people with learning difficulties - as many ways as we can possibly think of - including taking her to shops, cashpoint, bank etc - I'm now considering explaining it through the medium of dance. The result of this is she is hugely stressed, which makes her day to day behaviour and mood swings more pronounced. She also says she has not got enough money to eat (she has!) - and so will not buy food. In effect, she starves herself (the second problem). The GP is very concerned about her weight, and has stopped her from taking donepezil prescribed by the consultant until she has put on some weight. Having said that, she is not able to manage her own medication, and has already taken an overdose which made her very ill. All this is compounded by her belief that people are going in to her house, moving things around and/or stealing them.
Anyway - enough waffling - I could go on forever! I should really appreciate it if people could firstly reassure me that these are not unique issues, and secondly offer any help or suggestions. Many thanks - Nick
PS - re. money side of things - she will absolutely not hear about power of attorney - been there, not a hope!!