Is it best if my Mam stays in the same care home permanently that she has been in for the last three weeks on respite? She has three weeks left partly funded by the Council as they fund six weeks respite and she's been in already for three weeks , until she probably moves into a home on a permanent basis. It isn't as close to me as I would wish but if Mam is settled and used to the staff is it best there? They have kept her clean and dry whilst she has been there and the food seems lovely and home made. How do you tell that they are happy? And that somewhere is could be better? Mam had a operation this week they were doing a spinal anaesthetic but had to do general and her confusion is terrible now.